Her When She Was Young, Is She Still There?
Throughout our growth, we encounter various people, and the road is bumpy and uneven. The crowd is bustling and chaotic.
The most beautiful period of adolescence is student life, but for boys, it's awkward—whether in junior high or high school, you'll often see the phenomenon of writing notes in class, having conversations about life, ideals, and the future with the girl you like. However, parents always tell you to put out the small flame of 'love' within your intense academic struggle, which is truly heartfelt.
But when you go to college, you'll always find your mother asking three questions: Do you have enough money? Are you studying well? Have you had a girlfriend? And you always answer with 'No' in perfect agreement.
Finally graduating from school and entering society, you aggressively pursue love, and your friends cast envious glances. After many ups and downs, it doesn't lead anywhere,
Slowly, you enter your thirties. Although you still occasionally compose poetry, you always feel a sense of loneliness. Basically, it's because you lack your other half. You envy others who are in pairs, and sometimes you wonder, 'After so many relationships, why haven't I found the one for me?'
Finding a girlfriend isn't difficult; the difficulty lies in not being able to get along. The little bumps in daily life are our biggest obstacles. The biggest factor in whether we can be together is whether we have mutual trust and tolerance.
So, it's important to get to know each other before getting together. Understanding someone's approach to life and how they treat others. For example, my wife is a teacher (a very strict one). The first impression she gave me was that her values were even better than others, she understands and sympathizes with others, takes responsibility, and challenges authority—that's what I admire most about her. No one is perfect, but her other side is that she doesn't know how to cook, and she needs someone to take care of her, which perfectly complements my skills. She knows how to make me feel important, so we received our mother's blessings: compatible and a lifetime together.
Regardless of who you're with, you need to get to know each other for a period of time. Sometimes you're like 'wet noodles,' sometimes you part ways. I hope the 'her' of your youth always stays with you.
