But Dante the poet said, 'Walk your own road, let others talk about it.'

A person is always concerned about what others say, likes to look at others' faces, then he will be dragged by others. Being dragged by others will make you gradually lose yourself. Life becomes more and more confused.

When you live, just be happy, you don't need others to recognize you. Whatever you have done, you are responsible for it yourself; whatever you don't want to do, you decide yourself, be spontaneous, be natural, be free.

1. You should take your own life choices, don't always imitate others.

'The sky is high for birds to fly, the sea is vast for fish to leap.' The world is so big, the stage is so big, you break free from all constraints, you will live freely. When you don't care about others' faces, you'll find your face looks better. You are a little narcissistic, but you'll find that you have many advantages that others can't do.

Reader Wang Mumu asked me: 'Is it a shortcut to success for a person to imitate others?' I said: 'Imitating others can lead to faster success, but if you only focus on imitating others, you will lose your own advantages. Smart people, in the early stage of business development, try to imitate others, and when their business reaches a certain height, they start to innovate and surpass others.'

Imitating others' lives is a method, but it's not the ultimate goal. True strong people have created their own roads and continuously surpass themselves. A person who can surpass himself can easily surpass others, even make others envious.

2. Your love, warm or cold, is known only to you, don't let others say too much.

To love someone, you should respect others' opinions, but you shouldn't completely listen to others' opinions. If you always do what others tell you, you'll end up with nothing, and you might end up a bachelor for life. When you get married, if you always care about others' words, you'll feel unhappy and feel like you've married the wrong person.

My nephew Liu Hua is 29 years old and has a girlfriend from a foreign town. They returned to their hometown together, which was a happy event. However, the girlfriend's eyes were not beautiful, and when she looked at people, she seemed to look down on everyone. Many relatives quietly told Liu Hua: 'This woman doesn't have a good look, you should think carefully. Does she have any genetic defects? ...'

The relatives' words made Liu Hua hesitate. He had originally planned to hold a wedding this year, but after hearing the relatives' words, he thought that he had chosen a disabled girl. The girlfriend also saw that Liu Hua was hesitant, so she broke up with him. The good love ended in failure.

Your love should be felt by yourself, warm things are only understood by you, cold things are also only understood by you. Outsiders only see the appearance of a person, they don't understand a person's heart. Love is cultivated by, it's not about loving a person's appearance. Couples should live happily together, don't care about what others say.

3. Decide for your own circle of friends, don't care about whether others like it or not.

Many people set 'three-day visibility' for their circle of friends, and some people leave comments on their circle of friends, making you unwilling to post anything, even isolating yourself from the circle of friends. But you often think about posting something to prove you're doing well.

Whether to post a circle of friends and what to post, you should decide yourself. As long as you don't post negative energy, don't violate laws and regulations, you can post with confidence. If others don't like it or give it a like, that's their freedom, their eyes are their own, you don't need to interfere. Posting a few circle of friends, you'll have a happy day, this is your freedom.

When you encounter unkind people, let them leave nasty comments in your circle of friends, block them. When you encounter people who gossip, you can delete their comments. Some people don't want to be friends with you, you can block their circle of friends. You can post a few circle of friends, and you'll have a happy day.

4. Decide for yourself what kind of grades you recognize, don't brag.

As you achieve some achievements in a certain field, some people applaud you, some people are secretly scheming, some people are jealous of you. If you care about others' opinions, you'll be 'proud and arrogant', and you'll get lost, and you'll become confused.

The saying goes: 'The higher you stand, the harder it is to fall.' A smart person won't care about his achievements, but will recognize his own achievements, then start again to create more achievements. For example, a supermarket owner who earns tens of millions wants to expand his business. He told his friends, but they opposed him, and some supported him. This owner became confused and didn't know what to do. Because he was hesitating for a long time, his nearby supermarket expanded its business and took his business.

In life, opportunities are fleeting. If you consolidate your achievements and never boast about them, and never rely on others' recognition, you can 'advance steadily.' Bragging will only make you lose something; caring about others' recognition will make you lose direction, and even be deceived by others' applause.

5. Take responsibility for your own pain, don't expose your scars.

The day before yesterday, reader Juhua told me: 'How could I be so unlucky, I lost my love and was mocked by my friends.' Juhua worked in Huizhou and broke up with her boyfriend. She was very painful and told her factory sister about her 'breakup.' As a result, her words became a 'topic' for everyone to talk about, and they mocked her, saying she didn't look good, and that was the reason for the breakup.

I told Juhua: 'Don't let others say anything, you should just put it aside. Breakup is something you should deal with yourself, don't look to others for comfort. Your pain is always when you talk about it, which is exposing your scars, and this won't benefit you. I sincerely hope that Juhua can forget her pain and rebuild her confidence. In life, true love will eventually come to you.

Some people want to 'salt' your wounds, which is not sympathetic. Some pains, the fewer people who know them, the better. Once others know them, they will often torment you, making you feel worse. In fact, pain is a person's greatest wealth. When you truly overcome the pain, you'll live happier and more mature. This maturity doesn't need anyone to recognize it.

6. Life is a process, you should live in your own unique way.

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