Two people being together shouldn't be based on sex,What's it like to be in love with someone but only able to sleep with him?

On Zhihu, a highly praised answer said: We've been together for half a year, and he's been particularly cold towards me lately, except when he comes back to sleep. Most of the time, whenever I send him a message, he only responds with 'busy.' I know it's a problem with our feelings,

He was so attentive to me before, even when he was busy, he would patiently coax me. Now he's like a different person. The other day I saw his chat records and realized he's fallen for someone else,

Now he only wants to sleep with me, and I can't say 'break up.' I still want to see him, even if it's just for the night. Sometimes I think this is really not worth it, but feelings forgive everyone. Willing to gamble, you have to accept the consequences,

The era of quick love, many people blur the boundaries and extent of love. They no longer care about how much they've invested, but rather about what they've gained,

When you love someone, he'll flatter you and be attentive, but when he stops, he'll only sleep with you, not even speak,

The scariest thing is that you still can't find a reasonable reason to break up, because in his logic, sleeping with you is the same as dating, and besides, many of my friends are like this—they fall in love through sex, and no one can get out of it,

It's not to deny that in this era, we don't need to be as conservative as the feudal society—there are indeed some 'love born from sex' that have lasted a long time, but most girls haven't reached the point of falling in love just because of sex,

This is not only disrespectful to women, but also reduces my impression,

It's not an excuse for being busy, desire is not a reason, don't hurt people carelessly,

Frankly, two people being together shouldn't be based on sex,

Some say, love without sex is like admiring a cake in a display case. Now everyone is busy, who has time to have a real relationship,

Everyone is indeed busy, but even so, I still don't agree—only when two people sleep together can they start a relationship, or rather, let sex be the only pleasure in love,

There are many joys in love—you can travel around the world, explore the unknown, see mountains, rivers, and seas, enjoy the smoke of the world, and eat all the delicacies—you are unique and irreplaceable companions in your life, the most special partners in your life's journey,

And even if you're busy, if you like her, you'll take the time to respond to her little thoughts and emotions, even if it's just a few minutes, you want to say sweet words to her, send her WeChat,

Sex and love are two different things, but they can't be completely separate. In comparison, I think love is the most important. So don't use being busy as an excuse to hurt someone who really loves you,

Sometimes people are too eager to prove their love to someone they like, even if the way of expression is a little strange,

Waiting for the passion to fade, love gradually diminishes, and there's nothing to love—the fiery desire becomes a shoddy reason for love,

In fact, most girls have simple minds,

I like you, I will naturally respect and satisfy all your reasonable requirements, because in my opinion, that's how you love me,

But I also hope that when I find you, you can spend time with me, don't use the word 'busy' to brush me off,

I don't need you to treat me like a child, but I want you to know when I need you, you can say you're there, even if it's through the screen, I feel warm, because I want safety and warmth,

Yes, when you truly love someone, you want to give them the best—if you say you're busy, you don't know that she's forced to hold back her tears and tell you everything's fine,

So spend time with your girlfriend, give her a little sense of security and warmth, little by little, it's okay,

It's not worth being proud of to sleep with someone, it's worth boasting about in the world—to wholeheartedly care for someone,

I'm busy, but for you, I'll always have time,

I am a floral courtyard I, I have seen too much joy and sorrow, my heart is still warm. Write heartfelt words, live a warm life.

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