Please, don't post pitiful updates and seek sympathy in your friend circle – no one cares.
A person's growth process is a continuous self-carrying process.
A friend circle is a mirror, through which the content reflects a person's personality.
I know a girl who often posts pitiful things in her friend circle, initially I felt sorry for her, thinking that life is difficult for women alone, and I also commented to comfort her.
However, seeing it repeatedly, I became tired and even disgusted. In my opinion, occasional sympathy is tolerable, but if it becomes frequent, it's a bit suspicious about her original intention.
Some people are particularly childish, even for trivial matters, they post in their friend circle to announce to the world.
For instance, when cutting vegetables, I accidentally cut my finger, with blood everywhere, instead of immediately stopping the bleeding, I took a photo and posted it in my friend circle.
To be honest, I don't understand this operation, at a critical moment, the first thing I think of is not life, but broadcasting pitifulness for sympathy.
People like this are really lacking in love, so they make such a move.
It's true that people are different, but I will never be so sentimental, after experiencing hardship, I will learn to endure it silently.
Actually, we really understand those who always post pitiful things in their friend circle, trying to gain sympathy. They just want someone to care for them, perhaps her friend circle is for the person she secretly admires.
It's true that women can be weak to attract sympathy, it can also trigger men's protective instincts.
However, a friend circle is a public place, your every move is exposed, we are all adults, our behavior should be rational, not childish.
I know a guy who was once crazily pursuing a girl, whatever is related to her, he wanted to know.
That's how people fall in love, I guess.
But the more I know her, the more cold he becomes.
Because he repeatedly looked at the friend circle of the girl, feeling that she was too pitiful and needed to be announced to the world.
In the end, he gave up, no longer pursuing this girl who desperately needed pity.I was surprised, he could already foresee the future even before falling in love?
Because she often posts pitiful things in her friend circle, she is easily moved and has a strong possessive nature.
It's true that people are different, but I will never be so sentimental, after experiencing hardship, I will learn to endure it silently.
I also made this mistake. When I injured myself, I posted in my friend circle, expecting sympathy and comfort, but I received nothing. It made me feel like a failure and without any sense of existence.
However, after my friends' subsequent actions, they were particularly heartwarming to me.
The next day, someone proactively asked me about my accident, even though it was just a few words, it was very warm.
From then on, I realized that if you don't care about you, you won't care more just because you post your feelings. Those who don't care about you will still be cold, and you are just air to them.
Those who care about you will see your updates, even if they miss it, they will proactively browse it. That's the difference.
This is human nature.
It's undeniable that people are different. Just from the friend circle, you can distinguish high and low.
Those who always post pitiful things in their friend circle are not very successful in reality, at least they don't have a sense of accomplishment and security.
People should know that some pain, you should experience it yourself, it's really not necessary to expose it in public. Someone might argue, 'My friend circle is for me, I don't need others to interfere.'
Although this is true, it's still advised not to let yourself fall into an emotional vortex. It's just a trivial matter, with a little self-comfort, it can be easily resolved. It's not necessary to post it on a public platform.
I've seen many people, their friend circles are particularly bland, except for some article links, there is no much personal life, which will lead to misunderstanding. This is a very boring person.
Of course, a friend circle is a window, allowing outsiders to peek into our inner world.
But if I'm affluent, I won't care about this land being overgrown with weeds or full of flowers.Because they know that personal life's success or failure doesn't need to be exposed to others.
Life's pain, blood, and tears should be internalized and transformed into strength.
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