Never Argue with Someone of a Lower Level
Never argue with someone of a lower level; he will drag your IQ down to his level, and then defeat you with his experience. The kind of person you will become depends on the level of person you argue with.
Author: Wen Yi
Source: Ai Hui Yu Yi (ID: ai hui w yu)
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When I just started working as a university graduate, one day I went to do business with the leader. After finishing the business, we drove to the parking exit, and an old man with a red armband came to charge us thirty yuan.
Obviously, our car had only been parked for less than half an hour, but the old man insisted on charging us thirty yuan.
He glanced at me sideways, and without a word, he closed the parking gate. A man walked in, happily sipping tea.
Meaning: In someone's territory, you have to listen to them. If you don't pay the money today, you won't be able to leave.
I was about to get off the car to argue with him, but my leader stopped me without a word, and I didn't let him pay the parking fee.
After a smooth departure, I felt very disappointed and complained to him. Obviously, the reason is on our side, why should we succumb to him? We could even drag it on indefinitely.
Never argue with someone of a different level; it is a useless loss for yourself.
02
A Beijing native editor friend, this year he went home for the New Year, his relative asked him, how much can he earn a month?
He truthfully told him, who knows that the relative listened and said with sarcasm, 'You should at least be a college student, how can you be no better than Li's son next door? He just earns a middle school diploma, but he's doing quite well in Shanghai.'
He kept shaking his head and sighed, 'It's really not useful to read so many books.'
He told me that at the beginning of the year, he had always liked a self-media big account that was recruiting. He enthusiastically submitted his resume, and was finally successfully recruited.
Although the salary wasn't high, and he often had to work overtime, he felt happy and fulfilled because he could work with a group of colleagues with similar interests.
But after hearing his relative's words, Xiao Yi really wanted to defend himself, and finally thought about it, and didn't do it.
In this case, Xiao Yi's relative used 'how much money you earn' as a standard to judge a person's success, while Xiao Yi valued more the value and future that the job could bring him.
The difference in cognitive level determined that they couldn't agree on the same things.
When you want to make things clear in the face of people who don't understand you, don't rush to win or lose. It's clear that not everyone is worthy of your explanation. It is not necessary to try to change them.The world has different ranks of people, we cannot change the nature and quality of people around us, but fortunately, we have the right to avoid them and not argue and entangle with them too much, this is the best protection for ourselves.
This does not mean weakness or concession, but when you have spent all your energy but cannot eliminate the gap between people, you will finally understand that the best way to speak is to say less and do well.
As (Murakami Haruki) wrote in 'The End of the World and the Cold Dark Country,'
There are some tragedies that cannot be cried, this tragedy cannot be explained to people, even if explained, people will not understand. It is unchanging, like snowflakes quietly deposited in the heart.
04
In the early 20th century, the US Secretary of Finance William McKnight had many years of political experience, he once said: 'You cannot defeat the ignorant with debate.'
Often we want to use our opinions to overwhelm others, use our values to correct others.
But people of different levels will inevitably have different cognitive ways regarding the same thing.
The other person will not become the kind of person you want them to be just because you say something. So when the two meet problems, they are often just talking past each other and disagreeing.
For people of different levels, we don't need to force harmony, nor do we need to try to change others, just stay in our own circles and make friends with people who have the same values, this life is enough.Remember that some things should only be said to those who understand, otherwise there is no point.
Never argue with someone of a lower level; he will drag your IQ down to his level, and then defeat you with his experience. The kind of person you will become depends on the level of person you argue with.
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