One counsel to parents

Please do not live with your children, children ask to live with you, you should also drive them out, even if they go to rent a house.

Money can be given to him, but he cannot live with you, only those who understand it clearly know this principle.

Because there are differences in education between the two generations, and values and lifestyles are different.

When you live separately, distance produces affinity, a law that is not written in textbooks: the further you live apart, the better the relationship between parents and children.

Two counsel to parents

You can always treat your son and daughter as minors, you can use and beat them as you like, but you must not make your son-in-law and daughter-in-law call each other. Because if you scold them, they will remember it for life.

In this world, only their parents can scold them, not if they were born and raised by you, you must not intervene.

Three counsel to parents

Your son-in-law or daughter-in-law buy things indiscriminately, like Korean dramas, addicted to mobile phones, don't wash clothes, don't cook, poor hygiene habits, don't tidy up, can't take care of children, all this is irrelevant to you. This is between your son and his girlfriend, or your daughter and his boyfriend. You just don't see it.

The wife and husband's faults are not something you can say to others, this is the real love you have for your son and daughter.

Otherwise, either the whole family will be disgraced and mocked by others, or your son and daughter-in-law will break up, and your grandchildren will not have a mother or father, they will shout 'Grandma' or 'Grandpa' to others!

Four counsel to parents

If you are currently living with your son-in-law or daughter-in-law, do not touch their things, do not help them wash clothes, and cannot have a moment of lapse in school pick-up, let alone a moment of carelessness.

There are three important things to remember:

First, remember that they never eat leftovers,

Second, remember that they always dislike cleaning,

Third, remember that food expires, even for one day, discard it immediately!

If grain is infested with insects, even a few, discard them all! If you don't understand, you must execute it; if you're not used to it, you must follow it. Simply put, living with them is to create trouble, start with small troubles, and then grow into big troubles.Therefore, the earlier you separate, the better it is for you to consider every day.

Five counsel to parents

When you see them arguing, pretend you didn't see it, treat it as if you didn't hear a word.

Think about it, when you quarrel with your husband, do you hope your parents intervene?

Remember: when your son complains, say good things about your daughter-in-law; when your daughter-in-law complains, you should scold your son a few words; when your daughter complains about her husband, you should say good things about her husband.

Because in the eyes of the son-in-law and daughter-in-law, 'There's only a good mother in the world,' and the mother-in-law or mother-in-law is full of faults!

Six counsel to parents

Your grandson and granddaughter's father and mother are your son and his wife, your daughter and her husband, not you and your husband.

Therefore, you should not deprive them of the right to educate their children, even if they are not so capable.

Because your teaching methods are outdated.

Therefore, your cross-generational education is not effective, you will only suffer for it, if you don't do this, you will suffer and your family will be destroyed by greed, conflict, and destroying feelings. Even if you leave a little debt for your children, it is already a good thing.

Seven counsel to parents

The state has not stipulated that son-in-law or daughter-in-law must be filial to their mother-in-law or father-in-law, they must be filial to their parents.

Therefore, you must always remember 'two musts':,

One, the good deeds of your son-in-law or daughter-in-law must be often mentioned, and you must tell others about them;

Two, if your son-in-law or daughter-in-law are not filial to you, you must say she is filial.

In addition to this, you must achieve 'two forget,'

One, you must immediately forget the good deeds of your son-in-law or daughter-in-law;

Two, you must also immediately forget that your son-in-law or daughter-in-law are not good to you.

If you do 'two musts' and 'two forget', even the most troublesome son-in-law or daughter-in-law will gradually start to 'understand a little,' because people are flesh and blood.

Eight counsel to parents

Don't bother with your son or daughter's divorce, whether it's divorced or not is their business, not yours.

If you interfere, you'll only get seriously ill and become a bad name: 'Son-in-law is not filial to his mother-in-law, and daughter-in-law is not filial to her father-in-law,'

Remember,

Your son-in-law or daughter-in-law who you marry is the same as your son and daughter, they are all your babies.

Nine counsel to parents

Don't focus your center of gravity on your son and daughter, you need to plan your own elderly life.Life has more than half passed, there are many new things to learn,

Make sure your elderly life is happy, please spend all your savings and property before you die, don't let your children become heirs, because you leave them not wealth, but resentment, conflict, and destroying feelings. Even if you leave your children a little debt, it is already a good thing.

Ten counsel to parents

Respecting the elderly and loving children is a Chinese traditional virtue, but you must understand that your grandson and granddaughter are not your babies,

Don't worry about your grandson and granddaughter to eat, drink, or not sleep, don't even take them to the hospital; your grandson and granddaughter's father and mother should take care of his baby, he should not eat and not sleep, he should even sacrifice meat and replace organs for him, even if they are willing.

You have a baby who eats, drinks, and sleeps well, the first person you think of is not your grandson, but yourself, because you have taken care of your children for half your life. Now it's time to take care of yourself, your grandson is already enjoying more than you.

Friend: No matter whether you are your son-in-law, daughter-in-law, or mother-in-law, mother-in-law, please read this article 'Ten Counsel to Mom' carefully, because whoever reads it will benefit.