At 30, Embrace Subtraction
White Yan once said in a speech: Before I was 30, I made the greatest effort to supplement. After I turned 30, I had to know how to subtract. Before 30, youth and exuberance, liked to strive for benefits, liked to make all kinds of friends, liked to constantly do addition. After 30, with increasing maturity, to pursue inner peace and tranquility, it is necessary to avoid unnecessary social interaction, free up more time to do what you want to do, elevate your soul, and protect your family. Learn to eliminate redundancy for yourself, remove some meaningless desires and social interactions, and leave some space for yourself. Wang Han was questioned by Qian Feng during a recording show: “Why did you delete my WeChat?” Wang Han answered: “I deleted many famous stars, including Chen Kun and Fan Bingbing. When my WeChat had the most people, it was as many as 100, I felt very scared. I wanted to eliminate some meaningless things.”
About Life
What does ‘a gentleman does not serve’ mean? Determine whether items are to be retained from a self-centered perspective. Your talents are important, so you keep them. If you don’t need it, let it go to a place that is more suitable. Erasmus said: ‘A man becomes himself when he has become himself.’ In your own field, dig out the joy that belongs to you. From exploring your heart, when your thoughts change, the joy you naturally perceive will be diverse.
About Growth
People say that a person’s temperament hides the road he has walked, the books he has read, and the people he has loved. With the changes in age, our views and cognition of things will also change, and the books we need will also change. However, it is these differences that shape our lives. From the dictionary ‘43: Comfort Zone’ of King Lear, we get the principle that all problems are rooted in our over-reliance on comfort zones. It's like boiling a frog in warm water, the final result is to be unknowingly boiled to death in hot water. From a growth perspective, growth is in stagnation.
Self-Reflection
Distance produces beauty, just as Three Meters Deep says: ‘When friends become intimate again, it’s still necessary to be cautious.’ Some people think the timing is mature, but the result is isolation. ‘People are good at being bullied, horses are good at being ridden.’ But good people are not weak, they are afraid of hardship and weakness. Similarly, benevolence must be based on principles and standards. It must abandon benevolence, contend with it. It cannot become a tool to be trampled on. Therefore, kindness does not equal weakness, a person’s kindness should have some sharpness.
He Xiang: ‘Old’ from the perspective of an age chain, the problem of age growth. ‘Maturity’ is viewed from the perspective of health, nature and positivity. In fact, each age group has its own characteristics. ‘When you are 20, you don’t need to be very mature. At 40, don’t worry about wrinkles on your face. At 60, you don’t need to regret the years you have had.’
Everyone can like his current age. Because at this age, it must be the best.
