Good Couples Are ‘Each Goes Their Own Way’

Good couples

are independent individuals

A few days ago, 'Happy Three Chimes' was hotly broadcast, and the marital relationship between Zhang Nandie and Deng Jie was admired by many people.

Mr. Zhang usually enjoys writing, listening to Jing Yun Da Gu, and leisurely wandering at home.

While Deng Jie likes to cultivate flowers and cook delicious dishes.

Most of the time, they would be in the yard, one reading the newspaper and the other pruning flowers.

There's a particularly interesting scene in 'Happy Three Chimes' – Zhang Nandie wanted to help Deng Jie plant flowers, but accidentally got flower thorns stuck in his hand. Deng Jie told him to rest and she would do it herself.

People often try to force themselves to do what their partners like in order to have a closer marriage, which often backfires.

A healthy marriage should have both individuals with their own hobbies and interests, and a separate world outside of everyday family life.

And this separate world is willing to share its happiness with the other person.

Only then can the relationship be comfortable and free.

And those who have independent hobbies also have independent living abilities.

When you separate, you can do your own things and shine;

When you're together, you can stand side by side and support each other.It's possible to be a better version of yourself in a relationship, and to respect each other's small worlds, which is the key to a healthy marriage.

Just as Huang Lei said:

When we are together, we are happy; when we are not together, we can both live well and find our own happiness. I that when I'm filming outside, Sun Li will arrange her life in a rich and colorful way.

Over the years, Huang Lei has risen to a new level in the theater industry, and Sun Li has also continued to be young and graceful.

And they wouldn't pass up time to make dinner and bake with their two daughters. After twenty-five years of marriage, their lives are still rich and sweet.

Good couples

need space and freedom

What is most needed in a marital relationship? Is it space and freedom.

Since marrying into Hong Kong tycoon Xu Jinheng, Li Jiaxin has always been as sweet as the first day.

Li Jiaxin once said that before getting married, she and her husband had discussed, even as a wife, she still wanted to have a private space and not share it with her husband.

In an interview, she said that after understanding and respecting each other's lives, problems naturally become clear.

Good couples

are able to maintain a psychological distance

A good marriage is a relationship that has a breathing sense, and is more durable.

Good couples

will skillfully handle their respective emotions

If you browse on Zhihu about 'divorce,' you'll find that many marriages end because people can't handle their emotions properly.

Many marital conflicts are caused by messy emotions processed outside, and then vented at home.

There is often such a scene in life:

His wife was upset at work and came home with a bad mood. When something didn't go his way, he would vent his anger on his wife.

His wife felt wronged and didn't like it, thinking he was just trying to make her unhappy. They argued and argued endlessly.

A family's happiness is ruined from the moment negative emotions enter the door.

'Spring Banquet' writes: 'Higher emotions eventually form spirit and consciousness; lower emotions can only degenerate into anger and mood.'

No matter what negative emotions you receive outside, you need to digest them yourself, and when you meet your loved one at home, give a warm smile and hug.

Stop pointless arguing and venting, and positive energy can give each other strength and confidence, and help solve problems better.

Husband and wife are family members who can live together for many years, they are relatives and lovers, and they are people you can confide in and depend on, but not a punching bag.

Everyone knows that Chen Xiao Chun is a person with a bad temper, and Deng Yi also has a fiery temper. But after they got married, they learned to be tolerant of each other.

So their children could grow up in love and become a cute and innocent child, and they also pass on love to each other every day, helping each other become better people.

It's a capability for adults to skillfully handle their emotions, and it's a secret to the longevity of marital relationships.

Often, a marriage isn't unhappy because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of freedom.

Shitou's 'To the Willow Tree' says: 'Higher emotions eventually form spirit and consciousness; lower emotions can only degenerate into anger and mood.'

When you encounter difficulties, you can be companions in the storm;

In ordinary days, you can be loving family members.

We understand each other and are independent individuals.

I hope everyone can find a partner who can 'be independent when separated and invincible when together.' I also wish everyone could get better and better.

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