Lack of Refinement is Not Bluntness
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In the adult world,
People's interactions all follow one principle: it's comfortable to get along with.
If a relationship isn't comfortable,
No matter what topic you discuss, you won't evoke resonance,
No matter what heartaches you express, the other person won't understand.
Many people are used to 'straightforwardness',
Every matter is always turned and twisted, which wastes a lot of time.
When dealing with genuine, honest people, it saves time, effort, and worry.
In life, however, some people mistakenly believe they are genuine,
And then they behave in ways that lack manners.
Once a conflict or problem arises,
They will deflect responsibility onto others.
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Let's be a person with manners,
Be sincere in people's relationships, do things with sincerity.
A person without manners will make others uncomfortable.
He knows you don't like this,
But he still does things you don't like,
And then he gives himself a more pleasing title,
Making you compromise and tolerate him.
A truly cultivated person considers the interests of others,
Respects your wishes, knows your preferences,
If they violate your bottom line,
They will sincerely and seriously apologize.
Their manners are ingrained in their bones,
Failure, they will admit victory or defeat,
Success, they won't be arrogant and disdainful.
They understand and appreciate the efforts of everyone,
They also respect everyone's abilities.
These things are deeply ingrained,
They are difficult to hide.
03
A person without manners only cares about their own comfort.
Speaking and doing things, they only care about their own feelings,
They don't consider the consequences of their words,
Nor do they pay attention to the way they do things.
Everything is done according to their liking,
If others offer suggestions,
They won't listen or believe it.
Living in their own world, basking in self-satisfaction,
They make others feel awkward.
04
A truly cultivated person will sacrifice their own comfort,
To make others feel comfortable and happy.
They understand how to distinguish, and they know how to prioritize,
They won't ruin others' expectations and hopes because of their own selfish desires.
A person without manners always thinks they are straightforward,
A person without manners can't see their own pettiness and selfishness.
They like to use 'straightforwardness' as an excuse,
To do many things that disregard others' feelings.
In life, we play many roles,
A person without manners will deviate from their role,
Although they are subordinates, they think they are superiors,
Although things don't belong to them, they like to meddle in other people's affairs.
They are unclear about their identity, and they randomly 'shoot their mouths off'.
05
A truly cultivated person,
Every word and action reflects their demeanor.
The best thing they do is to do things well and stay within their boundaries.
A person without manners is always rambling and complaining.
When they fail, they complain that the world is unfair,
When they are sad, they blame themselves for being hurt,
When they succeed, they suppress their arrogance and boastfulness.
A person without manners always has a mouth that won't stop talking,
Anxious to deflect responsibility and boast about their 'achievements'.
A truly cultivated person, whether they succeed or fail, will put it in their heart,
Because they know that
Success is not a one-time thing, and failure doesn't mean failure forever.
The wind and the waves are ever-changing,
They want to be the best version of themselves in every stage.
06
Straightforwardness is being direct, and a lack of manners is finding problems where none exist.
They always like to make others feel uncomfortable,
They don't consider other people's feelings,
This is a manifestation of a lack of manners.
Don't say 'I speak straight, you don't need to be offended' anymore,
This is a defense of himself,
A truly cultivated person won't say this,
But will demonstrate it through their actions.
Even if I'm straightforward, I'm a person with manners.
A high-EQ person,
Even if they speak the truth,
Won't make people feel wronged!
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