What is the highest state of being a person?

Confucius said: 'One must restrain oneself.'

The highest state of being a person is:To endure hardship without complaint, and to be pleased without boasting.

To endure hardship without complaint is a wise man.

Enduring hardship without complaint is not about you forcibly breaking your teeth and swallowing blood; it's about minimizing complaints and accepting a little loss gracefully.

No one likes to hear your complaints. When faced with suffering, few people really want to understand your hardship; enduring hardship without complaint is our best choice.

"Eight hundred and eighty-five li of the divisions, the scorching flame" , Jian Qi Ping, twenty years old, entered the military, he once captured enemy generals in ten thousand armies, established many military exploits; twenty-five years old, wrote an essay on leveling the military, had the spirit of Duke Huo and Prince Qi, pointed out the rivers and mountains with grand rhetoric.

But soon he was demoted and demoted, a hero fell into poverty as a vegetable farmer, and the grief and loneliness in the middle, who could resonate?

He wrote "Now I understand the bitterness of sorrow", Jian Zi Xuan, did not want to complain?

He wasn't unwilling, he understood that complaining was useless, so he didn't complain. He transformed his deep resentment and anger into the deep ravines of his poems; his grievances, anger and dissatisfaction turned into the legendary basis of his name.

Enduring hardship without complaint is about quietly transforming, waiting for the opportune moment and then shining brightly.

Happiness without boasting is wisdom.

“Happiness without boasting is not about showing joy; flowers should be half-open, wine should be slightly drunk, and people should be modest and restrained, hiding their talents.Zhang Ailing had a friend, Yan Qing, the two had a good relationship at first, but later Zhang Ailing couldn't stand Yan Qing's boastful behavior, so she ended the relationship.

After Zhang Ailing went to America, she was short of money, and Yan Qing often bragged about how he made money.

Zhang Ailing lived as a widow for many years, and Yan Qing talked about the sweetness of his marriage.

Zhang Ailing couldn't bear it, so she ended the relationship, severed ties.

Happiness without boasting is not saying that you are happy, but you don't let others be unhappy.

"Vegetable Root Treatise" says: "Those who are serene and composed are often suspected by those who are extravagant; those who are well-disciplined are often avoided by those who are reckless. A gentleman should not show too much change in his behavior, nor should he show his sharp edge too much. Happiness without boasting is about being modest and restrained.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Xun You, he humbly avoided suspicion, paid close attention to concealing his sharpness, "

He was appointed as a military strategist to Cao Cao, he suggested brilliant strategies repeatedly; but to Cao Cao, to his colleagues, he paid attention to not showing off his sharp edge, did not compete for high positions, he tried to conceal his talent, wisdom and achievements, always appearing modest, timid and dull, avoiding showing off his skills.

In contrast, Yang Xiu, although his mind was agile and he had great talent, he didn't consider the occasion, didn't analyze the good and bad of others, he only showed off his small cleverness; later he stirred up Cao Cao's family affairs, was suspected by Cao Cao and finally ended his life.

All those who do things should not be too arrogant or show off their sharpness.

Happiness without boasting is about being modest and restrained, it's wisdom.

Life is always a test of wisdom, and those who are richest are wise men, and the most precious wealth is wisdom.

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