Love, Once Begun, Cannot Be Returned to Either Lover or Friend
Someone once asked me, 'Can a former lover become a friend again?' When I heard this question, I thought about it for a long time before finally and definitively answering, 'No, it's impossible, or at least incredibly difficult!' Don't you find it strange that friends can become lovers, and two people can love each other, but once that love is gone, lovers can't become friends again? Often, when we end a romantic relationship, we'll say, 'Let's be friends,' even though we know it's just a convenient excuse to avoid hurting each other. It's a comforting word to hear, but don't take it too seriously. Truly believing it is a sign of foolishness. Once you've been in love, it's hard to let go. A former lover can never become a friend, because the way we interact as lovers is fundamentally different from the way we interact as friends, and there are real differences between those who have experienced it and those who haven't. At least 99% of people can't get over that hurdle in their own minds.
Perhaps some people mistakenly believe it's possible to become friends again after a breakup. They're ignoring the other person's existence and feelings. You can't accept everything, and neither can others. A relationship is a two-way street, and breakups are too. If you and your partner are perfectly in sync and understand each other's feelings, how could you have broken up in the first place? There will always be someone unwilling to give up, and some people will cling to each other. Many breakups are just given a chance to make mistakes. Often, we let go hoping both parties will be okay, even if they never see each other again. Who would willingly let go if there was a chance? After a breakup, it's really hard for people to become friends again!
Someone reading this article might disagree with my view. Those people probably haven't considered the other person's feelings or their own. You can't accept everything, and others can't either. A relationship is a mutual effort, and a breakup is a shared experience. If you and your partner are in step and understand each other's feelings, why did you break up in the first place? You must have given the other person a chance to make mistakes. We often let go hoping that both parties will be okay, even if they never see each other again. Who would willingly let go if there was a chance? After a breakup, it's really hard for people to become friends again!
Someone reading this article might disagree with my view. I encourage you to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
