抱着满腔热情发着毒誓，自己还是没混出个人样

Be kinder to yourself. You are just a child of the universe, no different from plants and stars. – Max Ehrmann, 'We Need'

Original | Zhao Yixin · Editor | Liù Bènhís

Source: Dongjianduwu (ID: dongjianduwu)

Are you sitting on the subway or bus, in a cafe, or lying in bed, comfortably reading this article? Today we're talking about whether you're living the life you want, or whether you're still striving towards that goal, or whether you're still working hard.

Remember the person standing at the graduation gate, confidently saying that you would have a career in the future? I was the same. After graduating from university, at the moment I stepped out of the school gate, I was full of enthusiasm and vowed that I would definitely find my own way.

But now, I'm still working hard.

We always hear that people say in a certain era, 'Ideals are lofty, reality is grim.' I initially thought this was just a musing of a non-mainstream young person, but the more I thought about it, the more I realized it made sense.

One of my friends, a student majoring in architecture, just started university, and had already obtained his construction engineer certificate. At that time, everyone looked at him with admiration, thinking that as long as he had this certificate, he wouldn't starve to death.

Yes, you won't starve to death, a construction engineer doesn't do anything, and you can still get two ten thousand yuan a year.

And now, he's sitting in another office, thinking about his next goal.

He said, 'When I can't achieve the expected results in pursuing a thing, I realize how foolish I was to persist.'

It's not that architecture is too difficult, but he was already unable to support himself. Every month's rent was 2500, plus electricity and food costs, 6000 basic salary was not enough for him to thrive in a big city.

He decided to switch careers and became a salesperson, working for five years. He told me, 'Isn't a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan good enough?'

I didn't answer him, just silently thought that he had changed.

And you, are you still the person you were before?

We all vowed to live a certain life, but now?

I don't agree with everyone's way of life, there are still a few people who are still pursuing their goals.

Then most people give up in this storm and make compromises to live a stable life.

Yes, that's right, I'm one of those people. This way of living is more prudent, more cautious, and more conservative, and less flavorful.

Success will only belong to a few people, and we will eventually transform into the masses.

But have you ever thought that, despite being born the same person, where did you fall behind them?

Mr. Ma was not successful until he was almost fifty years old. Before that, even Mr. Lei thought he was a liar.

What you see are just the results that others achieve fifty years later, without considering the sacrifices they made fifty years ago. Think about the past few years, ten years, or even decades. How much have you let go of, how much are you still pursuing, or whether you just want to take a few trips a year to become your goal. That's too small for a life.

Life is not a perfect ending, but a memory of a lifetime.

01

Do you still remember your initial dreams.

Think about what you said at the graduation gate again.

One of my classmates, after tearing up all the books and exam papers, and excitedly throwing them out of the lecture hall, he shouted at the class dean, 'I've finally gotten my revenge, you are nothing.'

At that time, everyone was still immersed in the joy of graduation, and he said this, which instantly fell silent.

The class dean said a sentence that I still don't understand today.

He said, 'You can do it, you can.'

Then he smiled and awarded everyone with graduation certificates.

I thought my classmate could use this to make a big fuss and make everyone remember his name, but ten years later, he really did it.

He's a wandering artist, and his lifelong dream is to travel around Northeast China, from east to west, to the sacred Lhasa. He spent five years from graduating from university to the end of IG championship, finishing with this trip.

After two days of the IG championship, he sent a message from Budala, and said he was returning to Beijing. At that time, almost everyone online remembered his name, and he decided not to wander anymore.

02

Don't complain about the bitterness, embrace the sweetness.

Don't complain about the suffering, embrace the good things.

After graduating from university, I'm also studying architecture. But I'm different from my friend. He has a clear goal, and I just live blindly.

The Buddhist teachings say, 'The Three Bodies of Cause and Effect cannot be explained, heaven does not people with good intentions, and the masses encourage and advise for transformation, and this scripture is printed and distributed.'

Simply put, if you create a cause, you will have a good result. One cause corresponds to one result, but countless reasons correspond to one result.

If you want to be a wealthy person, you either become rich or work hard or rely on luck and opportunity. But whatever you do, it will correspond to the things you will become later.

We heard a classic sentence from a certain era, 'Ideals are lofty, reality is grim.'

This sentence is very brainwashing. It's hard to keep working hard.

03

Think about the result after hard work

Effort will not be in vain

Now if you don't play, you'll be playing later.

That's the simple truth. Effort is proportional to results. Don't wait for the heavens to drop eggs, it's a matter of earning your own living.

My classmate's major is also architecture. Now I'm still working hard. But I'm different from my friend. He has a clear goal, and I just live blindly.

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