Don't Make Yourself Difficult, Just Do What You Want To Do
Live your own life.
Don't live for others' eyes.
Do things you don't like.
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Do you ever feel exhausted when living for others?
In reality, many people naturally live in the world of others. Afraid of not being satisfied, afraid of others saying bad things about you, and afraid of not having a good impression in others' eyes, you will try to fit the likes of others, sometimes forgetting what you want to do.
Especially in love relationships, it's easy to be self-conscious when falling in love with someone, and once you're self-conscious, you live under others. Because you care more, and worry about losing, so you try to live according to the liking of the other person, doing things you don't want to do.
We often say,You can try to make the other person's preferences your own, but don't give up your own preferences because of it.
Although he is important to you and worth paying attention to, blind or excessive attention can lose your purest self.
You should know,Everyone has a path that suits them, and you must have things you've always wanted to do. In this regard, on this road, you shouldn't sacrifice yourself for anyone, because good relationships don't need you to give up doing yourself.
Life is not easy, you don't need to make yourself difficult for someone. Just stick to what you want to do!
02
After graduation, Cherry got married to Old Fan, and classmates thought their marriage was a bit rushed, and they said at the time that they were marrying for love. It's okay to marry the person you like without considering time, and there's nothing wrong with it.
After getting married, Old Fan took on his responsibilities as a man, working hard outside to provide for Cherry with his abilities. Cherry also became a full-time housewife without any pressure, mostly taking care of children and playing the role of a housewife, occasionally doing some part-time work like being a shopper.
Many people might misunderstand Cherry as someone who only cares about family and has no ambitions. In fact, she had a dream to be a outstanding foreign translator since university, as she loved many foreign languages and self-studied three foreign languages during her studies. However, after meeting the person she wanted to marry, she put her dream on hold.
Cherry said, 'I've mentioned to Old Fan that I want to go to work, but he just wants me to focus on taking care of the family.' She was rejected many times, and later whenever Cherry had the idea of going out, she would give up.
Some people might envy Cherry's carefree life, but she always says she envies those who don't have to be constrained and can live the way they want, in their own way.
Suddenly, it feels like,
We are not without things we want to do, but we are always doing things that others want us to do, doing things that others hope we do.And those dreams, those living states that you wanted to reach, can only be shelved.And this kind of life is really what you want?
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So if possible, can we live once for ourselves?
Once according to our own thoughts, once to choose to do things ourselves, and once to make a decision that we won't regret. You are attracted to each other, have a chance to meet, and can become better because of each other.
I always believe that in any relationship, the best way to get someone's love is to get their respect, allowing you to continue doing what you want to do, and you will never be difficult. Besides, all the grievances won't be rewarded.
Therefore, no matter how much you care about someone, you shouldn't change your life's trajectory for him. As Dong Yigu said:
Don't make yourself difficult, just live as yourself!Anyone, anything, shouldn't be someone who hinders your path. Some people love to get, and don't love to get, and some things are the same. You can do what you can do, and don't force yourself.
We're all pursuing a happy life in the end, not making ourselves difficult! You can love someone, but you also need to love yourself.
