Life has ups and downs, can’t lose one’s mood in defeat?
Purify the mind
Many people like the feeling of a house being cleaned, just as they like the feeling of cutting their hair – a sense of getting rid of the excess. Children are happy because they don't have too many worries or unnecessary concerns. Adults, on the other hand, have too much baggage, too much imagined complexity, and some exaggerated sadness. Computer users know that recycling bins need to be emptied regularly, or they will take up too much space and affect the computer's performance. Human thought is similar. You can't discard everything, and you can't retain everything. Smart people are those who choose wisely and make the right choices at the right time. Worried people can't walk quickly, while those who are not worried are often irrational.
This is the difficulty of life. You must constantly clean up and give up some things because 'the less you have in life, the more you can realize your potential.' I remember a play where a hero told someone, 'Let's go, don't look back. If you can't do it, don't come back.' He wanted him to leave, hoping he wouldn't be weighed down by the past. Purifying the mind is a process of struggle and striving. Life is a journey of waving goodbye. Young people should say goodbye to their hometown, sad people should say goodbye to their sadness, eagles should say goodbye to comfort, happiness should say goodbye to sadness. Without saying goodbye, there is no growth. To become strong, a person must have the courage to turn around. Saying goodbye is for a better reunion.
Let go is also a kind of tolerance
A person is like a country; without tolerance, there is no development. Among all the factors that contribute to success, the mind is first, or tolerance is first. Sometimes, giving up insults, giving up angry impulses, and giving up vengeful desires is itself a kind of tolerance. Smart people often give up explaining. For many people, explaining is a form of concealment. Li said: Sometimes, explanation is unnecessary. The enemy doesn't believe your explanation. Friends don't need your explanation. Many things don't need explanation. It's just that the rain didn't fall through. It's just that you failed.
Successful people shouldn't be afraid of criticism, because if you do something, you will make mistakes, touch some people, and make some people unhappy. In fact, 50% of people support you, which is very good. There are very few 100% things in the world. Eastern things are more beautiful, so they are more likely to be broken. To train their ability to deal with opposing opinions, they should bravely and actively solicit opposing opinions. Don't complain about your opponents. He has his own views. That's his freedom, and it's not related to you. Don't bother to argue with him; speed is important.
Time creates beauty
Almost everyone has their own sadness, so some seemingly important places, such as hometowns, schools, former units, and the scenes of first loves, may not have many people enthusiastically return because there are too many stories inside, and too many heavy stories remain in place. Eye not see, heart not troubled. However, when everything is easily seen, there is nothing to lose. Time fades the past, leaving only beautiful memories, youth memories, growth, struggle, brilliant smiles, and lonely nights with candlelight. I participated and interviewed many anniversary events of schools, and received the salutations from those white-haired and returning-old-friends tears. Time can soften even the hardest hearts.
Social psychologists tell us that jealousy comes from similar industries and regions, and conflicts often arise from tangled interests. 'All life forms face fierce competition', because all life forms have a high growth trend. In the face of limited resources, survival competition is inevitable. The fiercest battles almost always occur between one person, because they live in the same area, need the same food, and suffer the same threats. Some tensions need time and distance to alleviate. If you go too far, you'll feel unimportant, you can relax. From a distance, many things look beautiful. So we don't need to be frustrated because we can't solve the problem. The problem that cannot be solved will disappear with the flow of time. Over time, hostility, misunderstanding, contempt, and contradictions will gradually disappear. Time can turn the ocean into a changing field.
4 Retirement Aesthetics
No matter how long your eyes look at things, after a long time, you will be tired. A person's physiological, emotional and intellectual cycle determines that he cannot be in a state of climax forever. In the life cycle, a person will inevitably decline. A year is a life cycle. 'It's just as important to make a beautiful retreat and a beautiful attack at the right time.' Helping someone for a long time, even luck can be tired. It's important when you arrive not to be applauded, but to be missed when you leave. The aesthetics of retirement is to start well and end well. The key is to leave at the right time and in the right way. It's harder to park smoothly than to enter smoothly, because the top of the mountain is beautiful, and people are usually tired when they go down the mountain.
'Moss does not grow on rocks', you cannot climb a mountain if you don't go down. A person's life can climb countless mountains. Each mountain is unique, but no mountain is worth staying on forever. One factor influencing retirement is desire, and another is excessive persistence. In the interests of life, no one should be too obsessed with anything. So-called excessive persistence means not being biased towards a particular aspect, a particular wish, a particular attempt, a particular purpose, or a particular process. Any bias can make it difficult for people to see beautiful scenery and waste time.
If you lose, you won't lose anything. 'A smile won't make you lose anything, because it never comes back.' Things develop the way they do, and things come back the same way. No one dislikes a smile. But the problem is that the things that make people smile are often not around, while the things that make people frustrated are often unavoidable. It's not possible for people to be happy with the people and things they like, because there is no source of happiness.
For a while, I was very disappointed. The girl I liked didn't care about me. My carefully written manuscripts were revised and revised again. I also had health problems. A cold would come to see me. My life was a mess. At that time, my good friend said to me, 'You can't lose anything. Let some things go.' I decided to change. I didn't look for that girl anymore. I immediately threw my manuscripts elsewhere. I also said goodbye to laziness and irregularity, and started playing basketball and running every day. As a result, my body became strong and handsome. My articles were published and won an award. I stopped 'worrying' about the girl, and she started to care about me.
The reason why someone or something makes you uncomfortable is because there is always a reason. Some reasons take a long time to know, and some you will never know, but these don't matter. What matters is that it makes you uncomfortable. It affects your emotions, judgment, and time. Give others another chance to understand you, give yourself a chance to see a wider world, what's not good about that?
