You are too kind, and these three things cannot be tolerated.
In this world, there are so few people who are truly good to you,You are too kind, lacking edges, and you will be exploited by others,Society is complex, human relationships are as fragile as paper,What people fear most when interacting with others is,the unfamiliar strangeness after deep friendship, the deception after trust,Therefore, even if you are kind, you cannot allow the following three things,because these are your bottom lines.
1Things that violate your dignity cannot be allowed,A person can be poor, but they must have dignity,A person can be powerless, but they must have principles,People often say, 'Some can be killed, but not humiliated',This means that everyone has dignity when they are alive.
I can do anything for you,except for things that violate your dignity,Whether as a friend or a close person,you should learn to respect others,only when mutual respect exists can kindness be matched.
When doing things, you cannot lose your dignity,A person knows that when someone helps you, if the condition is to violate their dignity,you will never bow your head,because dignity is the deepest and most profound thing within a person,Even if you are poor, you will not accept charity.
Even if you encounter difficulties, you must overcome them with your own strength.
Those who violate your dignity are violating your bottom line,Therefore, there is no need to tolerate it at that time,You must be tough to protect your dignity.
2Things that violate your conscience cannot be allowed,When doing things, you must have principles,Even if you are kind, if someone asks you to do something that goes against your conscience,you should not compromise,Because making money by compromising your conscience is to smear your morality,Some friends can come and go with you,but you cannot deeply connect with them,because they have no bottom line in doing things,As the saying goes, 'Birds of a feather flock together, and black ink breeds black writing',If you spend time with such people,your own character will also be affected.
Therefore, people must learn to distinguish between themselves and others,Don't help others excessively,to matters that harm or injure others, no matter how much benefit you gain!
3Things that exploit emotions cannot be allowed,There is a saying: 'Sometimes you see the wrong person not because you are mistaken, but because you are too kind',In society, when interacting with people and doing things,you must protect yourself,learn to communicate and resolve conflicts,kindness alone is not enough.
I used to be too kind to others, and when I had difficulties at work, I didn't say anything, I tried to solve them myself. Over time, people thought it was expected of me.
Talking to friends is also about being kind to others, but if others have demands, we don't deepen the relationship.
I remember once, a colleague and I were moving things together. The colleague pretended to be busy and ended up exhausting me,He realized it later, didn't say anything, and looked down on the colleague,didn't want to talk to him much.
Before, when I was too kind and others exploited me, I would get upset and avoid deep connections with them.
Now, I've learned from Self-Help and when interacting with people, I learn to protect myself,I know where my bottom line is, and others cannot touch it,Take different approaches with different people.
Learn to express yourself and protect your rights,Learn from losses and use them to grow.
Focus on good aspects, do what you like,Kindness should not be blindly tolerant,Because people's hearts are unpredictable,All unconditional trust and support will eventually be proven to be a grave dug for yourself!
Excessively kind is foolish, you must not trust anyone.
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