◆◆◆ 544px; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0);Chapter / Afternoon Reverie / NetworkSource:Mr. Huazuo (ID:Recently, I discovered something quite sad – two years after graduation, fewer and fewer friends around me are gradually diminishing.
1 The friends who are still frequently in contact with me are not many. And because of this, maintaining the relationship is particularly cautious, fearing that accidentally losing it. On a Saturday evening, a high school friend invited me to his home for dinner.
I thought about it for a long time, and still declined the invitation. Because I always felt that eating at someone's house was too bothersome, even if the friends and family were very enthusiastic, whenever I went, he would deliberately add dishes to me,
Of course, I didn't go to eat for free. Every time I went, I would give the friend's son a toy or buy some fruit. Although we were good friends, we couldn't just go empty-handed, it would be embarrassing.
Today I won't go, let's do it next time, I'm busy recently. When I sent this message, the friend paused for a long time and replied, instantly leaving me stunned.
He said, 'Didn't I do something to offend you? If I did, please tell me. Last time I said we were going to dinner, but I didn't go, you abandoned me, haven't you been upset about it?'
Actually, I had long forgotten about the matter of abandoning me for dinner, and he still kept it in his heart, and he associated my refusal to go to his house with this matter, thinking that I was upset with him.
So, I immediately explained to him that I wasn't angry, just very busy recently, and it was hard to go to eat.
After explaining to the friend, I looked at his message again, and suddenly realized that in the adult world, maintaining friendships is very careful, fearing to make any mistakes,
In our student years, we would quarrel and refuse to speak to each other for two or three days, but once the anger subsided, we would unconsciously go to the other person's classroom door to wait for them to let them go, without mentioning the previous grievances. And after we grew up and had jobs, if there was any conflict, neither of us would take the initiative to contact each other, and even the best friendships would break up if they wanted to.
Adult friendships are fragile and sensitive, they can't stand any disturbance.
After graduation, when I realized that fewer and fewer friends remained around me, I often asked the few remaining friends on WeChat about their situation, especially those who lived in different cities. 2Taking the initiative to ask and greet them a few times, otherwise, if there was no contact for a long time, I was always worried that the friendship would become estranged. Sometimes I browse my friends' circles and see that a good friend posted a playful dynamic with a picture, and the person standing beside him is unfamiliar to me, which always makes me feel a sense of emptiness and loss of heart.
In fact, I have always been a lazy person in social interactions. I used to hate maintaining friendships, but now I find that if I don't maintain it carefully, it might disappear one day.
Just like before, I casually saw my girlfriend's WeChat message, the time was in early June. She sent a message to the other person, but the other person hadn't replied until now.
And that person, their relationship was quite good before.
I asked my girlfriend, 'Why didn't she reply to me? Didn't you ask her again?'
After hearing my words, she shrugged helplessly, 'I don't know why she didn't reply to me, I don't want to ask, you deleted the chat record for me.'
So, I silently deleted the chat conversation, thinking that she would never contact this person again.
Sometimes, in the adult world, if you don't reply to my message, I won't bother to ask again, we will just go our separate ways. Let the beautiful memories of the past remain in our memories.
Suddenly I remembered the wedding of a college classmate some time ago. 3At the banquet, I sat at a table with 12 people, including classmates in elementary school and middle school. Because that day wasn't the weekend, and everyone was working, so everyone had to take leave and drive several hours to come to the place.
During the meal, a classmate took the initiative to stand up and say:
Let's drink a toast, everyone is busy now, those of us who can come today are truly loving, no matter where we are, if anyone gets married, we will take leave to attend.
The classmate was quite excited and his eyes were red.
During the conversation, I chatted with a person sitting next to me, asking each other about their current jobs, and that person said he worked in Guangzhou and flew over for four days.
At that moment, I thought to myself, 'If I could have such a friend at my wedding, it would definitely be a lifelong friendship.' Little did I know that after we graduated from elementary school, we went to different middle schools. In the first semester, we used every weekend to play together, but as we got to know new friends, we rarely saw each other.
Finally, we never contacted each other again. Although he was less than 100 meters away from my house, I rarely saw him.
Friends are like passing by, and they disappear along the way.
After graduating and having jobs, you'll find that fewer and fewer friends remain around you, just like me now, the friends I still frequently contact are not many. And because of this, maintaining the relationship is particularly cautious, fearing to make any mistakes, it can break up easily. In the adult world, those who can stay are good friends, cherish them. Even if some friends can only accompany you for a while, at least leave you with a beautiful memory. 4Mutual understanding, mutual respect, mutual cherishing, even if not often in touch, they are still kept in our hearts. Finally, I suddenly remembered the lyrics of Eason Chan's song 'Best Enemy':
