Practical Rules for Human Interaction
One, don't arrive empty-handed. In very close circles, everyone's level and resources are similar, and most people are engaged in internal circulation. In life and career, those who can truly help you are mainly from weak relationships.
Weak relationships still need to pay attention to enthusiasm and flattery. Just like what your parents think, bringing a friend home, how sweet he is, what he brings, it's a sign of whether he's polite or not,
When someone receives a gift, they are happy, you don't need to worry about how much money they have, they first think you are a person who is willing to give and will reciprocate, a generous person, a person worth making friends with.
Two, don't always argue. The purpose of speaking is to communicate, and the purpose of communication is nothing more than two things: one is to obtain information, and the other is emotional interaction,
Look at your successful father, a deep-seated leader, would he argue with you? No, you might not say it directly if you disagree with him, and he might not even realize it or bother to say it again,
The nature of arguing is to show off your intelligence. Most of the time, it's probably just that you don't have enough decision-making information and understanding. Even if the other person is wrong, even if it's a minor mistake, you shouldn't provoke them to dislike you,
Three, don't spend relationships. People from disadvantaged backgrounds feel it particularly strongly. As soon as you start to show a promising start, even the aunt who helped you clean up your cousin's poop will come to extort you,
Human relationships are not quantifiable, especially when everyone is not too wealthy, it's easy to create a situation where you have me and I have you, and everyone feels wronged, and it's hard to say,
The best way is to turn human relationships into a transaction – spend money when you can spend money, so the accounts are clear and everyone is comfortable, avoiding old grudges caused by excessive drinking,
Four, always exceed others' expectations. You can't forbid yourself from boasting, because boasting is also a form of promotion and propaganda, but you need to master the principles of boasting, the things you boast about should be able to be realized if others come to you,
Let's say you have connections everywhere, and you can raise hundreds of millions by telling your neighbor's son how high he's going to graduate from middle school, and you build a rural villa that's ten million cheaper. Can you handle it?
There's no diamond, don't brag about porcelain. Be modest when you should be modest, refuse when you should refuse, don't give people extravagant expectations, and finally find out it's a broken bronze. People will drown in their saliva,
Five, forget about helping others. If you position yourself at a high level, don't fight with people at the bottom, and don't remember helping someone a little. I used to have a friend who liked to boast about his help to the leader and buy building materials for relatives, later no one wanted to deal with him,
Either don't help or prepare yourself for the fact that they won't reciprocate. Otherwise, you'll feel like you've been taken advantage of, and it's difficult to accept psychologically, leading you to squeeze others, making everyone unhappy. Human relationships, based on emotion, and stop at etiquette, the more relaxed the better, preferably cooperating happily and satisfyingly, consolidating feelings, which is good. Wanting to have a confidant friendship is a bit forced, and it will change.
