The True Distance is a Person's Journey
Author: Dusk·Xixi
Everyone is saying, no one is listening.
You always have to taste loneliness by yourselfFrom Dusk 00:0010:11
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01
Friend Qiangzun finished a big deal before the year of the tiger.
The client was difficult to deal with, from the initial proposal to the final draft, he modified it more than ten times before and after, which took three months, finally finalized it.
Qiangzun felt relieved instantly.
And because of this deal, Qiangzun was listed as the monthly star of the department, receiving an additional year-end bonus, he was overjoyed.
As soon as he got off work, he couldn't wait to take out his phone and invite a few good friends to celebrate.
He dialed and someone said, 'I'm on a business trip in Shenzhen, I'll come back to drink with you in a few days.'
Someone said, 'Today is my wedding anniversary, I can't go.'
Still someone said, 'I'm working overtime to do the report, I'll talk to you later…'
Before he could finish speaking, he hung up the phone.
In that moment, Qiangzun tasted what 'loneliness' meant.
This feeling is like a person has gone through countless hardships, from the bottom of the mountain to the top of the mountain.
Will conquer the highest peak, to enjoy the scenery of the mountains, wanting to find someone to talk about the hardships along the way, share the beauty of the peak, but found that there was no one around, only himself alone.
On Zhihu, there's a question: 'What matter or words can make you feel so lonely that you cry?'
A highly voted answer is: 'You have good news but can't share it with anyone, and eventually it becomes a lonely sadness.'
02
There used to be a picture circulating on WeChat Moments.
At a party, a clown was waiting to perform.
He sat on the ground, tired and listless, with a blank expression.
In a few minutes, he was about to go on stage to entertain everyone.
But no one knew that behind this face full of grease, there was such a sad story.
Everyone is born lonely, we always have to walk through a lonely winter alone,Some people asked on the internet: 'Have you ever felt so lonely that you wanted to cry?'
A simple question, asking thousands of people to cry.
@allbehh's response:
While riding in a car accident on the way to work, he fractured his leg. He didn't dare to tell his parents because he was afraid they would worry, so he lay alone in the dark hospital room. But it hurts to get the needle, he didn't used to fear needles, now he does, but he thought about it, he was more afraid of his parents crying. He could only bear it alone.,@orange_orange
Pregnant for four months, husband suddenly passed away. Married for only one year, life has no color. Want to cry and vent, but afraid to affect the baby. There's a lot of bitter water in my heart, and I don't dare to say it to my family,@0_j_1
Took the three-class subway home, still had to buy medicine to prevent fever. The pharmacy closed at 8:30 PM, just arrived.Life is vast, your sadness may not be understood by anyone, your sadness is often just carried by yourself,
Even if you open your heart, no one understands you; even if you exhaust your heart, no one understands you.
There's no one who abandons you or forgets you.
It's just that time is a thief, stealing youth's loneliness, letting us gradually drift apart, eventually alone, traveling on our own tracks.
Classmate A entered a local enterprise, work is stable and leisurely;
Classmate B went to a well-known foreign company, work is busy and often works overtime until late at night;
Classmate C returned to his hometown to start a business, just started a blank paper, had to explore the way everywhere;
While you studied for a master's degree in a well-known foreign university.
Just graduated, you all have a lot of regrets, so you create a group and keep chatting, but soon the group fell silent, and you all interacted less.You didn't want to let your good friends become slack, so you decided to call them to chat, to share your feelings, but you soon discovered that they had all faded away,Classmate A said the workplace was full of wickedness, and you were full of negative energy,
Classmate B didn't reply, and he didn't have any news later, you guessed that he was busy, so you didn't bother him,
Classmate C replied, but you talked and talked, and you ran out of topics, so you hung up awkwardly, saying that you had urgent matters and left.
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Jay Chou said:
'Loneliness is not because of neglect and rejection, but because of ignorance, because no one understands you.'
Everyone desires to be understood, but everyone has experienced being misunderstood.
Understanding and comprehension are always luxury items.
You always have to taste loneliness by yourself, you always have to face the world's glory and shame, and loneliness, you always have to experience the sweetness and bitterness of life.
Life is destined to be a solitary journey.
Growth is to learn to get along with yourself,Because the real distance is often the distance you travel alone.
No one accompanies you through the same distance and the same water, only you, solitary.
Only by enduring all loneliness can you meet the dawn of the moment.
Only by enduring the dark night of loneliness can you witness the rising sun.
Ask, what is the most extreme loneliness in the world?
The highest rated answer is: Everyone is saying, no one is listening.
04
Garcia Marquez in 'One Hundred Years of Solitude' said:
'Life has never left loneliness independent of existence.'Whether it's our birth, our growth, our love, or our success and failure, until the very end, loneliness is like a shadow, existing in a corner of life.
Everyone desires to be understood, but everyone has experienced being misunderstood.
Understanding and comprehension are always luxury items.
You always have to taste loneliness by yourself, you always have to face the world's glory and shame, and loneliness, you always have to experience the sweetness and bitterness of life.
Life is destined to be a solitary journey.
Growth is to learn to get along with yourself,Because the real distance is often the distance you travel alone.
No one accompanies you through the same distance and the same water, only you, solitary.
Only by enduring all loneliness can you meet the dawn of the moment.
Only by enduring the dark night of loneliness can you witness the rising sun.
Ask, what is the most extreme loneliness in the world?
The highest rated answer is: Everyone is saying, no one is listening.
04
Jay Chou said:
'Loneliness is not because of neglect and rejection, but because of ignorance, because no one understands you.'
Everyone desires to be understood, but everyone has experienced being misunderstood.
Understanding and comprehension are always luxury items.
You always have to taste loneliness by yourself, you always have to face the world's glory and shame, and loneliness, you always have to experience the sweetness and bitterness of life.
Life is destined to be a solitary journey.
Growth is to learn to get along with yourself,Because the real distance is often the distance you travel alone.
No one accompanies you through the same distance and the same water, only you, solitary.
Only by enduring all loneliness can you meet the dawn of the moment.
