Relationship Loyalty Tests are not tests, but rather validations of one's inner answers.

Author: Flower Blue

Recently, I saw a rather amusing news story.

The reason is that a young girl posted on Weibo asking for help, saying that a police officer used his position to obtain a lot of her personal information and harassed her. The police officer also provided her ID card number and address.

A police officer can casually obtain such private information? Just when netizens questioned the credibility of the law enforcement department, the matter took a turn.

It turned out to be a staged test. The police officer was nothing more than the young girl's boyfriend who spent money to find a tester to test her girlfriend's loyalty.

After the matter became a big deal, the young girl's boyfriend quickly admitted everything was staged and asked the girl to delete her Weibo. However, the girl didn't delete her Weibo or issue a statement, allowing the matter to escalate.

Finally, the three people were punished for disturbing social order. This ridiculous farce came to an end, and the couple's relationship is likely to end in a bloody mess.

1. Innocent Love

Dying in a ridiculous test?

This is not an isolated case, in fact, many people are eager to play such ridiculous tests.

There is a team in the United States called To Catch a Cheater, which means 'Catching Liars' – i.e., catching cheating partners. Participants include couples who have been married for 5 years, as well as teenagers.

People hire fake beauties or handsome men to seduce the other party, which is purely 'fishing' to catch cheating. The test results are likely to be disastrous.

Some people are lucky enough to pass the test, but they broke up with their partners after the event because they felt their dignity and trust were challenged. Others failed the test and exposed their human weaknesses.

In the Spanish film 'Dark Side', Helen, for the sake of verifying her boyfriend's fidelity, self-directed and self-acted a disappearance scene. She just wanted to know if her boyfriend would go crazy to find her?

She hid herself in a mysterious secret room, the entrance was behind the back of a floor-to-ceiling mirror. The secret room was completely isolated from the outside, but could observe everything outside.

However, the key to the secret room was in a hidden slot on the floor, and Helen completely locked herself in.

Helen watched her boyfriend and others having a romantic relationship in the secret room, regretting, grieving, and going crazy. For this loyalty test, she tasted bitterness and hate, and eventually harmed others.

Human nature is complex, and love is fragile, it cannot withstand testing.

Nietzsche said: 'When you stare deep into the abyss, the abyss also stares into you.'

Perhaps we all have a curiosity, wanting to know the status of our love in our partner's eyes.

However, when we release our curiosity and use love as a trap to test love, love becomes vulnerable.

2. Testing Love

It's a game of escalating the situation

Relationship loyalty tests are not tests, but rather validations of one's inner answers.

Because it's already assumed that the other person is in a disloyal state.

I once read a story: a man saw a beautiful glass vase in the street, the seller said that the glass vase was very strong.

This person was half-believing half-doubting and bought it. After returning home, he threw the vase from the second floor, surprisingly, it didn't break. So he threw it from the third floor, and it broke. This person breathed a sigh of relief, see, this vase is indeed not strong enough.

A vase should be placed on a table, becoming a beautiful landscape, not a pile of broken glass.

Just like love, when you have a good relationship, you should carefully maintain it, not use scissors to cut it open to see if there are any impurities.

Love loyalty tests are just a game of escalating the situation, it's a bottomless pit.

In 'Don Quixote', a wealthy young man, Anselmo, married the beautiful Camilla for his wife. In order to test Camilla's loyalty, he invited his best friend to test his wife.

To complete this test, Anselmo did not know how to handle it and kept inquiring about his wife's whereabouts. Finally, he not only ruined his reputation, lost sincere friends and a beautiful marriage, but also lost his life.

Even if the other person was lucky enough to pass once, hearts will change over time. Once you test once, you'll want to test again until you find the other person is not loyal, love will be divided and this game will stop.

Just like the famous debate: If there's a button that shows how much your partner loves you, should you press it? Isn't this a button to test loyalty?

If the result is 98%, you'll endlessly doubt the 2% missing.

3. Testing Love

Destroyed trust

I once met a friend, Anna, had a plain face, but she married a handsome husband.

She was always in a state of anxiety, fearing that her husband would cheat on her.

Without knowing who persuaded her, she came up with the idea of testing her husband's loyalty. Anna hired a beautiful and fair-skinned friend to 'seduce' her husband.

Fortunately, her husband didn't pay attention to the friend's flattery, but blocked the friend and warned her to be modest.

Just when Anna's anxious heart gradually calmed down, her husband accidentally saw her and the friend's conversation, and knew this ridiculous game. At that time, her husband was very angry and felt that his intelligence was insulted. This test left a crack in her husband's heart.

This is the beginning of the rift between them, and eventually they divorced. However, after the divorce, Anna regretted it.

When the other person presents you with a sincere heart, you use scissors to cut it open to see if there are any impurities. The sincere heart is cut into pieces. At this point, you shouldn't test the other person's loyalty, but rather solve the problem together and rebuild the trust base.

I once read a sentence:

Windsocks also have a fear of heights, but trust is attached to the person holding the wind. So don't blame the wind for flying away, actually it was you who let go first. Lack of trust is a deadly hole in love.

'When you see a letter, you suspect it's a love letter; when you hear laughter, you think your heart is fluttering; as long as a man visits, it's a lover. Why does he go to the park? He always meets secretly.'

When you no longer trust your partner, it's easy to fall into endless guessing and testing, humiliating the other person and torturing yourself.

It's painful to either let go and be free or sit down and discuss the future.

Author's Introduction: Miao Hee, the most singing and writing in the field, committed to crazy shopping inside and outside, personal WeChat xiaoruimiao618

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