True kindness is often silent.
Source: Warm Woman(ID: wennuan-312)
Accumulate virtue does not need people to see, kindness rectifies like a clear stream.
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True kindness does not make people feel embarrassed.
There is a story like this.
An old man who picked up waste materials would occasionally glance at the steaming rice noodle shop, his testicles undulating with heat, obviously hungry.
A young man, with his daughter, was going to eat rice noodles.
The young man casually glanced at the outside and, ready to start eating, asked the waiter for a large bowl of rice noodles and spread half a bowl of rice noodles.
As he ate rice noodles, his daughter, tilting her head, asked her father, 'Dad, didn't you say you were a big eater?'
The young man smiled slightly and said, 'My dad has a bad appetite today.'
After finishing the meal, the father and daughter left, but the half-bowl of rice noodles remained, and it was still untouched for a long time.
The old man leaned his head in the shop, sat down, used chopsticks to pick up the bowl, swept away like a hurricane, and finished the bowl of rice noodles, then wiped his mouth with his hand, satisfied, and left.
During this period, the boss was engrossed in accounting, and the diners lowered their heads to eat. The waiter quietly tidied up the dishes, as if the old man had never entered.
A new rookie couldn't help but grab a few skewers of fried dough sticks and chased after them, but the boss signaled him to stop with his eyes, and he was stopped.
The boss whispered: 'This will make him feel humiliated, and he won't come again. Tomorrow morning, you sit at that location and give you double rice noodles.'
In the ‘Tao Te Ching’, there is a saying: ‘Kindness has no trace.’
In fact, truly kind people often don't boast or make a big fuss, even their kindness and charity are not obvious.
Instead, they give to others the most comfortable, most self-respecting, and most pleasant care and warmth.
Even for the humblest of the weak, they should show sufficient respect, which is the greatest kindness and virtue to others.
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True kindness understands how to leave people with dignity.
Sometimes, when someone helps you a little, even if it's not much,
If we don't thank others, or express our gratitude, we always feel indebted to others, and it's hard for us to feel comfortable.
When we accept others' kindness and help, we instinctively feel a huge sense of guilt and burden.
In ‘Dream of the Red Chamber’, there is a story like this.
When Liu Lan Lan visited the Grand View Garden for the second time, she received a sum of money from the Jia family, and tears streamed down her face.
When she left, Ping'er sent her off, and gave her some old clothes.
Ping'er said: 'My clothes are old, I didn't think you would be disgusted, I couldn't say it.'
Liu Lan Lan said eagerly: 'Girl, you are joking, these things are good, I don't need to say it.'
Ping'er said:
'Don't say anything, we are both ourselves, I am just like this.'
You can rest assured to accept, I still want to take something from you, waiting for the year to come, you just take your family's dried vegetable strips, dried peas, dried eggplant, and gourd strips, all kinds of dried vegetables, let us eat up and down.
This is finished, don't take anything else, don't waste your heart.
Liu Lan Lan eagerly agreed.
From these two details, we can see that Ping'er's kindness and generosity.
Because Ping'er gave Liu Lan Lan clothes, she said she was afraid Liu Lan Lan would be disgusted, which was to create a stepping stone for Liu Lan Lan.
Secondly, the Jia family didn't lack fresh fruits, so Ping'er wanted to ‘borrow’ from Liu Lan Lan, which was not to make her feel that she was receiving something from others and embarrassed.
In fact,
True kindness doesn't make people feel uneasy, it doesn't make people feel awkward.
When we treat others well, we can put ourselves in others' shoes, and try our best to alleviate others' pressure,
Instead of using kindness as a moral standard to make others feel burdened.
04We often say ‘do good deeds’.In fact, kindness is not just a material donation, it is a spiritual comfort, it is also a considerate gesture,
If we can treat others with empathy, we can help others.
A phrase is ‘true kindness is to do good without raising the banner of kindness; it is calm and quiet, not taking advantage of others; it is to accumulate virtue without letting others see it, and kindness is like a clear stream.’
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True kindness is to do good without raising the banner of kindness; it is calm and quiet, not taking advantage of others; it is to accumulate virtue without letting others see it, and kindness is like a clear stream.”
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