Have you chatted with someone you like today? In the Weibo comments, those without boyfriends look a little desolate, while those in love will sweetly reply, 'Yeah, I have.' Sometimes I wonder, if I meet a girl I really, really like, I would definitely make it a habit to talk to her every day.I'd like to hear her goodnight message before sleep, and say 'Good morning' when I open my eyes in the morning.This isn't just because I lack someone to share with, but because liking someone is something you can't hide, it's unique and special.
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Because of liking, you always want to approach him urgently; because of liking, you want to share all your secrets with him; because of liking, you transform from a timid person into someone who occasionally takes the initiative.I once saw a sentence online: many people who like to be independent and don't have friends will suddenly become talkative once they like someone.Some people are already very cold and concise with their words, but when they like someone, they become a chatterbox; some people are very busy and don't like chatting, but once they like someone, they suddenly become more gentle.I have a female friend who used to give off a very cold and aloof vibe and didn't interact much with others.Until recently, she started dating a boy and suddenly became a completely different person. She said that since she knew him, she had countless things to talk about and things to share. She used to chat with others on WeChat for a few sentences and then go to work, but now she's always holding her phone and wants to chat with him whenever she has a moment.It's like this when you like someone – you might not be interested in anything normally and be very passive, but once you've developed feelings for someone, you'll be more proactive.
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You'll become proactive to approach him, and you'll be excited if he quickly replies to you.Frequently, girls ask me, 'What should I do if I like a boy and want to chat with him.'I always encourage them to be brave and take the initiative, treat him like a new friend they've just met. But whenever I say this, they usually reply with three words: 'It's so hard.'Compared to ordinary friends, chatting with someone you like will usually be more cautious. You really want to get closer to him, but you're afraid to bother him, so sometimes you carefully consider every message, every emoji, and every punctuation mark to avoid giving him a bad impression. A reader once confided in me, saying she'd met a boy she liked, and every time she took the initiative to chat with him, it took a lot of courage.She carefully edits a long paragraph before sending it, and if he doesn't reply, she'll keep wondering and worrying whether she said something wrong. If he does reply, her heart will suddenly beat faster.She said she's actually not someone who takes the initiative, she just didn't want to miss out on him.
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So, if a girl can put aside her pride and actively chat with you, it probably means she really likes you.I once asked a girl, 'When did you realize you liked someone?' She said, 'It was probably when I took the initiative to send him a message and put him in my favorites.'In this fast-paced world, everyone is busy, no one will randomly chat with you or make the effort to flatter you.It's only when you're truly moved that you'll hold your phone, contemplate every word and meaning in his words, and his every message will be closely tied to your mood.It's only when you truly like someone that you'll be willing to put aside all your shyness, just to be by his side, watching him smile, watching him make mistakes. The biggest difference between boys and girls is that if a girl takes the initiative, it might mean she's falling in love, and she's letting go, it's really over.
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You should believe that many girls would rather miss out than take the initiative.
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