: A Feeling Called Regret
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Remember, in ‘You Are Not Alone’, Annie Fang wrote on her notebook: ‘It doesn’t matter how long you miss someone, what matters is whether you still remember.’
Fang Annie also said: ‘Maybe people always have some things, that they want to forget, but can’t.’
How many people have loved, but missed, how many people have loved, but regretted.
Perhaps, he is the man you deeply love to the bone. But if he appears too early or too late, this feeling will eventually turn into regret.
This is actually what this drama wants to tell us – the truth of love – ‘You Are Not Alone’: Even two people who love each other deeply will ruin it because of these three things.
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First: Misunderstanding – one doesn’t explain, the other doesn’t follow up.
Zhang Qingrong said in an interview: ‘When you are very angry, don’t make decisions, because at that time, you are likely to be impulsive.’
In ‘You Are Not Alone’, there is a plot about impulsiveness:
Fang Annie and Chen Sum’s relationship started after they both got into the same university.
Chen Sum was playing guitar and singing in front of many students during his army training.
At that time, Fang Annie heard girls below said: ‘This boy is so handsome, he likes him so much!’
At that time, Fang Annie felt a little jealous, but she pretended not to care and continued watching Chen Sum perform.
But after that, Xiaodong Sheng appeared and invited Chen Sum to sing and play guitar together.
At first, Chen Sum and Xiaodong Sheng just sang and played guitar together, but because of Chen Sum’s relationship with Xiaodong Sheng, there was no reasonable explanation and enough security, so misunderstandings gradually emerged.
For example, once Chen Sum was busy rehearsing for the New Year’s Eve Gala and forgot to take care of Fang Annie, who was injured, when Chen Sum looked for Fang Annie, Fang Annie was already disappointed and helpless.
Zhang Xiairen wrote in ‘Bread Tree Women’: ‘Misunderstandings need to be explained.’
In this relationship, Chen Sum did not do well in treating those who were close to him, and did not give Fang Annie a clear explanation, and he also avoided Xiaodong Sheng properly.
Because Fang Annie loved Chen Sum deeply and knew that he was outstanding in the school, Fang Annie gradually became timid, insecure, and even lost her basic sense of security.
In general, the most frustrating thing about Fang Annie’s disappointment and helplessness is misunderstanding. The deepening of misunderstanding makes it impossible for Fang Annie to understand Chen Sum, and even impossible to imagine what happened behind the things she could see.
Conversely, if you choose to explain when you encounter misunderstandings in a relationship, I believe the outcome will not end up like this. It not only eliminates some misunderstandings and contradictions between you and your partner, but also shows your partner that you care about him and are concerned about him.
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Second: Impulsiveness – no consequences considered, always so willful.
Remember, Lecturer Luo Jia said: ‘When you are very angry, don’t make decisions, because at that time, you are likely to be impulsive.’
In ‘You Are Not Alone’, there is a plot about impulsiveness:
After Fang Annie and Chen Sum broke up, one day, Xiaodong Sheng and Chen Sum were together and rented a house to live, which made Fang Annie angry, so Fang Annie and Xiaodong Sheng went out together.
Throughout Fang Annie’s life, only Chen Sum existed.
And Fang Annie knew that Chen Sum had a roommate named Kuang Qiang who had always liked her.
So Fang Annie went out with Kuang Qiang to take revenge on Chen Sum, and eventually gave Kuang Qiang her first night.
Later, although Fang Annie didn’t express anything, Kuang Qiang boasted about it in the dormitory, and even let Chen Sum hear about it.
Chen Sum heard it and immediately rushed to Fang Annie, and then ran out of the dormitory building and shouted: ‘Fang Annie! Fang Annie! Fang Annie!’
At that time, Chen Sum turned back and Fang Annie was behind him, and she walked towards Chen Sum.
Chen Sum was very angry and said to Fang Annie: ‘Why would you trash yourself like this? It’s not Kuang Qiang, it’s okay.’
Fang Annie calmly replied: ‘Can’t you be with Xiaodong Sheng, why can’t I?’
Chen Sum shouted: ‘This is something that two people love each other and can do, you love him? Does he love you? Are you two mutually loving?’
Fang Annie said: ‘Then I love him, we can.’
There is a saying online: ‘Some feelings are regretted because of impulsiveness.’
Impulsiveness is not a way to express love, but a way of acting rashly and unreliable.
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Third: Missed – only realize when everything has happened, then wake up.
Once, in the school infirmary, Chen Sum was accompanying Xiaodong Sheng to see a doctor, and accidentally heard the nurse say that Fang Annie was nine weeks pregnant and was sent to the infirmary.
Chen Sum immediately became very anxious and immediately found Fang Annie in the infirmary.
When Chen Sum found Fang Annie, Fang Annie was pale and weak, leaning on the wall, and her eyes were full of tiredness, and she looked at Chen Sum.
After a while, the school doctor also began to question Fang Annie about the child's identity, but Fang Annie remained silent.
Chen Sum responded to the doctor: ‘This child is mine.’
In fact, Fang Annie and Chen Sum both knew that the child was Kuang Qiang’s.
So Fang Annie decided to terminate the pregnancy.
After Fang Annie came out, she was very weak and leaned on the wall, and when she saw Chen Sum, she immediately reached out to support her.
At that time, Fang Annie took out a notebook titled ‘Accounting Principles’ from her bag and handed it to Chen Sum, and then Fang Annie slowly walked towards Chen Sum, and Chen Sum immediately hugged Fang Annie.
Fang Annie cried and said: ‘If this child is yours, how good.’
Zhang Ailing wrote in ‘Bread Tree Women’: ‘Missing is regret.’
In a heterosexual relationship, it is most frustrating to regret.
Regret misunderstanding. Misunderstanding needs to be explained, not let misunderstandings become the cause of our estrangement;
Regret impulsiveness. Impulsiveness needs to be rationalized, not let impulsiveness lead to the end of our relationship;
Regret missing. Missing needs to be saved, not let missing become our regret.
People's lives are often full of regrets – ‘You Are Not Alone’: There is a feeling called regret.
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