Why some women, with unremarkable appearances, always stand out in the crowd with their beauty? Why some women, with outstanding looks, are dismissed with a scoff?

Truly beautiful women are elegant women. Wherever they go, they are a scenic spot, attracting more eyes, always drawing more attention.

These women are all elegant. They don't need to show off, they don't need to flatter anyone, and they don't need to compromise. As long as they do what they do best, like a clear lake, with quiet beauty and reflection beauty. Elegant women, do well, also infect others.

1. ''scholarly women are naturally elegant.

Knowing books and practicing reason, women are calm and composed, never hasty. They always remember 'politeness', don't seek wealth, don't grab the limelight, don't show off their talents. True talented women won't 'speak eloquently' without preparation, even if we often see her writing, we don't know who she is. If you meet such a talented woman, you'll have the feeling of 'longing to know more about her'.

We always like to describe women as 'long hair, short sight'. But scholarly women are not like that. Her knowledge is enough to make her outstanding, wherever she goes, she is a different person. For example, she speaks slower, tries to respect other people's ideas, and is always able to understand what others are thinking. When she solves problems, she is more calm and has more methods. When she faces life's setbacks, she will cry, but she will think deeply, and she will always find a way out of life's difficulties.

A woman's elegance isn't made by dressing, but by wisdom. External beauty can attract people, but it can't last. Life's elegance is what makes a woman beautiful for life, and she becomes even more beautiful with age.

2. ''independent women are more distinguished.

Readers Qinglian asked me: 'Women have two lives, the first one is given by mothers, the second one is given by husbands.' I said, 'You are right, but not absolutely.' The best marriage is when women and men are equal, women don't need to climb up to anyone, it will make them appear humble, and it may lead to divorce. Therefore, women's 'second life' is about women taking the initiative to grasp it.

Elegant women's marriage is usually happy, but happy marriage isn't given by others, but created by themselves. For example, a woman marries a wealthy and powerful man, but she still goes to work to earn money, and she doesn't care about who's looking at her when she spends money, she's even more generous. Therefore, women who rely on themselves are very noble, their fate is always in their own hands, and it's easy to see.

3. ''women who don't cling to bad people and bad things are elegant.

Some women have beautiful faces, but often have teardrop marks, living like a resentful woman. Smart women don't dwell on the past, they don't fear the future, they treat past events as a process, just as they are.

My cousin Amei cried to me the other day, 'He left me, what should I do?' I said, 'Who left you? Are you going to die?' She said, 'My boyfriend actually blocked my WeChat and didn't pick up the phone, we really broke up.' I said, 'He leaving you proves that he doesn't have the fortune, it's his loss. If you still cling to him, it's your loss, proving that you're not good at it.'

A woman who clings to the past is miserable. Elegant women always say goodbye to the past and things, even if there's regret, they still forget it, letting the beautiful memories fade away, letting the painful things go away quickly. Women who are elegant have smooth and smooth fortunes, and elegant women are always moving forward with the flow of life, pushing themselves to a higher position.

4. ''women who cherish their families are wealthy.

Elegant women are loving women, they don't always crave to be loved by others, but they actively care for others. They have always been kind, even if they're good to others, they don't get a reward, it doesn't matter, because they do what they believe is right. When a woman marries, she wholeheartedly cares for her family and business, becoming her family's 'wings'. She and her husband overcame all the storms together, and she refused to have an affair, never losing her family.

It's said, 'A man's greatest success is to have a good woman.' A woman who is willing to give for her family is a good woman in a man's life. In fact, a woman's sacrifices will be rewarded, but rewards come at different times. For example, an elderly woman gets sick, a man cooks soup and makes her food, this is a better reward than having a lot of money. Therefore, women who cherish their families and understand how to care for their families are elegant.

5. ''believe in yourself, the more self-disciplined you are, the more successful you are.

Elegant women are confident. All their confidence comes from their ability to change their destiny, not blind confidence. Their confidence comes from their self-discipline, striving relentlessly for their ideals, and their lives are also very regular, everything follows their plans. A woman believes in herself, becomes a better version of herself; believes in love, meets true love; believes in the future, has a brighter future; believes in her husband, encourages him to succeed; believes in her children, guides them to grow up well.

Life never goes without difficulties, only those who refuse to go down will suffer. It is said, 'Life is full of hardship.' If you are defeated by hardship, you will only suffer more; if you overcome hardship, you will find a way out. Therefore, confident women are elegant, and they always have a radiant look, never looking gloomy.

6. ''quiet women are more admirable.

Zhang Ailing said, ''Silent people can hear the sound of flowers blooming and fading, and the sound of their own heartbeat.' Quiet people are elegant, silently enduring everything, and don't care about everything. Life is no longer noisy.

A woman who truly has elegance is different from the crowd. Elegant women are like lotus flowers in summer - they don't stick to the mud, they are clean and pure, not seductive.

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