Don't Compete in Four Ways

Life is like a practice, some things really don't need to be too concerned about.

As someone said: 'Not fighting, not grabbing' doesn't mean I'm inferior to you; 'not speaking, not smiling' doesn't mean I don't know.

Smart people know that it's four things that shouldn't be competed:

Not competing face

In life, there are 'three bowls of noodles' that are essential: face, sentiment, and occasion.

We often strive to look good on the surface, inevitably compromising and even pretending to be fat to cover up, trying to look good on the surface.

Remember, there is a small drama 'Having Matters' that reveals the false sentiment and causes the family to suffer greatly,

Friend bought a car ticket to return home during the New Year, he didn't sleep all night, carried the bedding to queue for tickets,

Colleague borrowed money from him, he didn't consider the actual difficulties, he borrowed from here and there, just to give the money,

The more people try to look good on the surface, the more they lack substance,

'The Book of Competing Face is Better Than Relying on Substance' contains a passage that says: 'People are not necessarily full of substance, but if they have substance, they will certainly have face.'

Ordinary people fight for face; successful people understand how to make face for others and enrich their own substance,

We often try to look good on the surface, but in the end, it's often a void, and it actually damages our own substance,

True face comes from inner ability and strength,

Instead of focusing on face, it's better to enrich yourself with substance,

Inner peace, a relaxed life, is truly a face,

Not competing in words

Mr. Kai Kang in 'High EQ, How to Speak' once told a story,

In the company, there was a young man with a high degree, high IQ, and high ability, who was appreciated by the boss,

But he had a habit of arguing,

Every time there was a meeting, if someone had a different opinion, he would blush and turn red, vehemently arguing, and without gaining the upper hand, he would never give up,

In the long run, everyone regarded him with respect and no longer mentioned reasonable opinions for his project, causing him to frequently make mistakes and gradually lose the boss's favor,

Sometimes, the immediate gratification of arguing, which appears to be a victory, actually loses the hearts and misses the opportunity,

Truly profound people don't compete for words,

Truly powerful people don't compete with anyone, because they don't want to compete with anyone,

Not competing for empty fame

'West Journey' has a poem: 'When will the struggle for names and profits end? Early rising, late sleeping, freedom is not free.'

Riding a donkey and a mule to think of a horse, a prime minister looking at a king,

Human nature is greedy, name and profit are endless, it takes a lot of time and sacrifices freedom to achieve it,

The more you focus on fame and fortune, the harder it is to do things on the ground; conversely, only those who see fame as a fleeting cloud are truly smart,

Mrs. Curie received 107 titles, and 16 world honorary medals,

Once, her friend came to her house for a visit and was surprised to find that Mrs. Curie's daughter was playing with the gold medal awarded by the Royal Society,

Friend asked: 'How can such a prestigious award be used as a toy?'

Mrs. Curie smiled lightly,

Let's let children know that honors are like toys, and shouldn't be taken too seriously, otherwise a person will achieve nothing.

Fame's temptation is great, ordinary people are difficult to resist, for competing in empty fame, they waste their energy and time, and in the end, fame will become a shackle that binds them,

The movie 'Nine Swords of Solitude' broke the mystery with a sentence: 'Who can break the names and fortunes, and wander freely in the virtual world.'

In 1991, on Mr. Qun Shu's birthday, media outlets, celebrities, and scholars all congratulated him, the Chinese Academy of Sciences wanted to hold a birthday academic discussion for him, which he firmly rejected,

Water doesn't compete with everything, it seems weak but is actually strong and resilient, it can accommodate, so it is vast and profound,

Having read a passage: 'A truly profound person never assumes that he is right, he is only concerned with his own feelings, and he does not boldly or arrogantly venture in front of others, nor does he blindly rush forward or be arrogant.'

His cultivation tells him what is appropriate to retreat, competing to be able to achieve, is a matter of grand composure and tolerance,

The deeper the person, the quieter they are,

Not competing for fame is a relaxed state, a mature and stable state, and a tolerant state,

In the chaotic world, surrounded by people coming and going, we should learn not to compete and not to grab, maintain a simple heart, and reconcile with this complex world,

Not competing face, not competing words, not competing empty fame, a relaxed life is a beautiful life,

Don't be too concerned about the opinions of others, don't compete for unnecessary things, truly smart people spend time on worthwhile things.

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1991

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