Water is gentle but can penetrate stone with its drops; if a person is calm and peaceful, he will surely bring spring breezes and rain, and carve mountains and rivers.
Master Yuan said: 'Virtue is, no anger is no misfortune, broad mind is long life, large capacity is wise.'
Life is not always smooth sailing, everyone will have emotions, which is normal.Emotions are like water, they should be, not.Learn to control emotions, don't look at emotions too seriously, nor should you always suppress the generation of emotions.
People are not meant to have tantrums.
Napoleon said: 'People who can control their emotions are greater than those who can capture a castle.'Hu Shi's erudition was profound, graceful, and Confucian; while his wife, Jiang Dongxiu, was unremarkable in appearance, had limited literacy, and was a prickly personality.According to this, such a couple is unable to live together, but Hu Shi, who skillfully controls his emotions, would excuse himself to the toilet to spit out his toothbrush from a cup, making the sound very loud to avoid direct conflict when his wife 'roared like a lion'They eventually walked hand in hand to their old age. Zhang Ailing even praised: 'They are rare examples of happiness in traditional marriages'It is said that 'temper is inherent, pull it out is innate, suppress is the skill' Emotional tranquility is a way to digest negative emotions, not only to avoid the small boats of marriage from various reefs, but also to continuously increase the happiness index of marriage.
Controlling emotions reflects a person's character.
Those who have emotions are the masters of life, and those who control their emotions are the masters.Master Qie Xianlin and had a meal in a small restaurant:Master Qie Xianlin helped a child who had fallen to the ground get up, and was mistakenly accused by the child's mother of bullying the child, and was scolded:A grown-up shouldn't bully a child; if my son is injured, I won't be angry! Fortunately, the surrounding customers disapproved: 'He fell down himself, this gentleman helped him up, why don't you ask him before you scold him?'Later, asked Qie Xianlin: 'You were misunderstood, she scolded you, why didn't you retaliate?'Master Qie Xianlin smiled and said: 'Everyone is watching, I don't need to explain.'Emotions reflect character, just as the old saying goes: 'The belly of a minister can support a ship.' Your emotions reflect your demeanor and character.
The best way to prolong life is to manage emotions.
Robert Wright said: 'At any time, a person shouldn't be a slave to their emotions, shouldn't let all actions be controlled by their emotions, but should instead control emotions.' Traditional Chinese medicine often says: 'Excessive joy causes sadness, excessive anger causes liver damage, excessive grief causes lung damage, excessive thinking causes spleen damage, and excessive fear causes kidney damage.'This shows that human emotions are closely related to physical health.For example, people under a lot of work pressure often have gastrointestinal diseases; those who are overly strong and dissatisfied often have headaches; those who are excessively anxious often lose hair; women who are constantly angry often develop breast hyperplasia.A person with bad temper generally has a bad body.Real health is not about living in a good house or eating health products, but about managing one's emotions.
Learn to regulate your emotions.
American social psychologist Festinger had a famous law: '10% of life's events are what happens to us, and the other 90% is how we react to those events.'People who can control their emotions can control their lives.Master Li Yu's method of writing was: 'I have no other habits, only writing books. Worrying and frustrated to eliminate, angry to calm.' Zheng Banqiao painted when he was squeezed by officials and unable to achieve his ambitions. He wrote bamboo paintings, and after finishing them, his mood was relieved.At the same time, distraction, listening to music, running are also good ways to regulate emotions.How to overcome negative emotional harassment? Here are a few small methods to help you regulate your negative emotions:When you're unhappy or worried, the first thing to do is to find the cause. According to a study by the Pittzburg University Medical Center's Dr. Laura D. R. Professor, sleep deprivation greatly affects our emotions.He said: 'For those who are sleep-deprived, those things that bother them more can influence their emotions.'Getting close to nature has always been a good way to relax your mood and soothe your emotions.Famous singer Frank Cast said: 'Whenever my mood is depressed and depressed, I go to gardening, and in the contact with flowers and trees, my bad feelings disappear.' ”
Our different moods are not caused by the things themselves, but by the different ways we look at things.Water is gentle but can penetrate stone with its drops; if a person is calm and peaceful, he will surely bring spring breezes and rain, and carve mountains and rivers.Let's reinforce negative emotions with a dam, transforming ourselves from slaves of emotions into masters of emotions, and have a happy and fulfilling life.
