Anxiety is like an elusive fog for everyone, and we are always habitually troubled by various things. For women, starting with the awareness of beauty, the biggest concern is undoubtedly ‘obesity’.

It seems that no matter how slender a woman is, she will always criticize herself for being fat. In addition to this, they are accustomed to attributing these factors to these reasons, especially the situation of men not loving them, and they completely attribute it to physique.

Obesity is a potential suppression.

01) People with body obesity often have a strong sense of suppression, this suppression is potential. And some people are not fat, but they transform this suppression into anxiety.

I remember those years when I was in college, because my figure was maintained very well, I often heard from some high school classmates, ‘What did you take to lose weight the fastest?’

One of my classmates was always fat and she always attributed her unhappiness in love to her being too fat. This is obviously not a good phenomenon, and it also shifted her thinking into a distorted state.

She got married when she was in her sophomore year of college, but early marriage didn't make her experience happiness. As passion faded, she felt a sense of anxiety.

After graduation, she didn’t get a job and was pregnant twice, both of which ended in miscarriage.

Every year, she would ‘check in’ and ‘motivate herself’ in her, but she couldn’t stick with it for long.

02) Whenever I see her, I feel she’s even fatter. Besides that, she has a strong sense of self-deprecation. That time when we went to eat together, she said her husband didn’t love her, and they often quarreled, it must be because she was too fat.

Throughout the whole conversation, I didn’t hear her define herself.

She doesn’t even know what she wants, she’s always thinking about what the other person wants, and she’s always wondering if she can do better.

Women tend to throw their emotional disappointments at obesity, and many of them fantasize that if they become thinner, their lives will definitely become the way they expect.

Human nature is inherently selfish, so no matter what, people are used to looking for mistakes outside. Some women are obsessed with ‘obesity’ because their vision is too narrow.

We should never carelessly attribute things to ‘obesity’. For women, these two things are more important.

I. Charm

01) We attribute all the beautiful qualities of a person to charm. Charm mainly refers to the unique and stable personality and behavioral style that distinguishes a person.

It is the sum of stable tendencies and relatively stable psychological characteristics. Obviously, for a woman, charm is always the most deeply rooted thing in a person’s heart.

We have always talked about women needing to be rational and independent, this is all related to a woman’s charm.

02) Charm dominates our thoughts, and it also affects our language and behavior. I often advise women to be confident, and it’s all for the sake of improving a woman’s charm.

Our temperament, perception, and character belong to charm, so don’t just put ourselves in a narrow space, listen to the inner voice, and immerse ourselves in the group to feel the thinking and awareness of the group, which can influence us to a certain extent.

II. Security

Women who feel they are fat are mostly due to lack of security. Security is a person’s desire for stable and safe psychological needs, mainly manifested as a sense of control.

Women can satisfy their own security needs, and can establish a diversified psychological structure, which is truly capable of not being panicked when faced with things.

Whether it’s entering a romantic relationship or being alone, the stronger your self-security system is, the more naturally you will have the power to control things.

Heaven gave us a unique figure, obesity brings physical burden, a healthy physique is important.

Sometimes, it’s more distressing than the body, that is the ‘pseudo-obesity’ in a woman’s heart.

In conclusion, for a woman, a charming soul is the greatest treasure over the long term. Everyone is destined to age, but some things deeply rooted in a woman’s heart are a great wealth.