From Wedding to Divorce, It Only Took One Trip to Reveal a Partner's Character
Mr. Qians said a very insightful sentence: ‘Weddings are reversed honeymoon periods. First, spend a month traveling, and after a month of travel, the two haven’t seen each other’s flaws, haven’t been disgusted by each other, haven’t quarreled or argued, and still need to maintain the original commitment. Couples like this will never divorce.’
Journeys can be very long, and there may be encounters with crowded attractions, bad weather, and unfamiliar problems.
During the process, it is necessary to have a plan, to learn to cooperate, to take responsibility, and to share the burden with companions.
Therefore, it is best to take a trip before getting married to see if you and your partner are suitable to spend the rest of your lives together.
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Xiao Xiao and Xiao Wu had been dating for two years, and their relationship had always been harmonious.
Both of them came from ordinary families, Xiao Xiao was a content and cheerful girl who didn’t care much about material possessions, and Xiao Wu was a kind and attentive man.
However, little did they know that their marriage ended in just one trip.
The two planned to go on a honeymoon trip abroad. Xiao Xiao wanted to see Europe and experience different cultures.
At first, Xiao Wu didn't object, but when he learned the cost of going to Europe, he began to complain. He didn’t like going abroad and said he hadn’t even explored his own country before wanting to go abroad. He thought it was better to travel around China instead.
Xiao Xiao listened and agreed, thinking it was a good compromise. For the sake of her husband’s feelings, she suggested a self-driving tour to Tibet.
Xiao Wu readily agreed. However, when he heard that Tibet was four or five thousand kilometers away from home, he changed his mind again: ‘Let’s just explore the nearby small cities and drive around.’
Xiao Xiao was starting to get angry because she had initially wanted a honeymoon trip, and Xiao Wu was completely disregarding her wishes.
Xiao Xiao reluctantly compromised and made a revised route that satisfied Xiao Wu.
The night before their honeymoon, Xiao Wu was still playing games late at night, and Xiao Xiao repeatedly reminded him, but Xiao Wu was still late.
Xiao Xiao even considered leaving, but she waited for two hours before reminding him again.
Xiao Wu said, ‘Don’t be so fussy, the flight was delayed, we can take a later flight.’
Unknowingly, Xiao Xiao had spent a lot of effort trying to book a special flight ticket.
Fortunately, their honeymoon started, but the things that happened on the way made Xiao Xiao even more angry.
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During the trip, Xiao Wu always held his phone and ignored Xiao Xiao, and when Xiao Xiao asked him questions, he simply said, ‘Whatever you want.’
However, Xiao Xiao forgot to bring snacks to the scenic area, and he blamed her for not planning properly, but she couldn’t achieve anything.
The whole day in the scenic area was boring because he didn’t want to spend money on anything, and he complained constantly.
The next day, they were supposed to go to the local snack street together, but Xiao Wu refused to go out because he was tired.
Xiao Xiao was also uninterested and rested for a day.
But soon, Xiao Wu woke her up: ‘I’m hungry, are you going to the snack street?’
Xiao Xiao was happy to hear this and readily agreed.
Unexpectedly, Xiao Wu said, ‘Then go, it’s not far, you can just walk there. When you come back, remember to bring some food for me.’
Xiao Xiao was stunned: ‘I’m his new wife, how can he order me around like this? Instead of taking care of me, he wants me to buy food for him in a foreign city. But facing Xiao Wu’s direct command, Xiao Xiao couldn’t find the words to refute him.’
Xiao Xiao bought a lot of snacks back from the snack street and wanted to cheer Xiao Wu up.
But Xiao Wu started to complain that the snacks she bought weren’t beautiful, weren’t delicious, or didn’t have any characteristics.
Xiao Xiao was finally angry and threw all the snacks away.
In the following days, Xiao Xiao went shopping by herself and didn’t care what Xiao Wu said, and they ended their honeymoon trip early.
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After returning home, Xiao Xiao thought that if she hadn’t gone on this trip, she wouldn’t have been so annoyed. She realized that Xiao Wu was a spoiled, narrow-minded, and unreliable man.
She regretted that she hadn't taken a trip before getting married, because she had missed seeing his true nature.
Argentine writer Florence Isaacs said: ‘Marriage requires the continuous cultivation of two intelligent people. The key is not to be complacent and to constantly improve your marriage.’
In marriage, we must not only enjoy the efforts of the other person, but also make changes for the other person.
A journey will always have an end, but marriage starts, and it’s difficult to go back once it begins. It’s better to stop the pain in time.
Besides the pre-wedding trip, there are many other ways to test a partner’s character.
We must open our eyes and not be deceived by love. We must face the problems of the other person.
Find a partner who has the same goals as you and understands and loves you.
Do you think Xiao Xiao did the right thing?
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