Being a Little Submissive Can Be a Strategic Move?
Having witnessed mountains and rivers, one's heart becomes calm; having experienced sorrow and death, one's temper becomes subdued.
Being 'subdued' isn't about being a coward or lacking courage; after a lifetime, a person understands gains and losses are merely a thought. Middle-aged people simply understand responsibility and dedication, learning tolerance and magnanimity.
1. Being ashamed of drinking
(1) A middle-aged man doesn't dare to get drunk.One's own body knows best; after decades of hardship, the body of a middle-aged person is a far cry from its youthful exuberance. Getting drunk once is like suffering from an acute hepatitis, and it increases the risk of various diseases. Bearing the burdens of the family, one's health is of paramount importance; drinking should only be acknowledged and let go.
2. Being timid about competitiveness(1) Not fond of comparing oneself with others.
Money cannot buy happiness, nor can it buy joy. Not much money is needed, just enough to be comfortable. Whether rich or poor, one is a full belly or an empty stomach. People who lack contentment are never happy; contentment brings wealth and peace of mind.(2) Not comparing one's children with others.
Children have their own paths; don't compare your children to others. Even if someone's children are better, you won't willingly exchange isn't? Children's health and well-being are the greatest blessings.
(3) Not comparing housesHouse size is unimportant; family happiness is most important. Location is unimportant; the most important thing is the position of family members in your heart. Decoration is unimportant; happy laughter is the most beautiful decoration in the house.
3. Being timid about relatives(1) Not visiting relatives who are overly observant
Prosperity lies in deep mountains with distant relatives, poverty in bustling cities where no one knows you. Some relatives are truly exasperating. Visiting relatives isn't for emotion, but for gain. When they are successful, they revolve around you; when you are unsuccessful, they merely observe coldly. Praise when high, scorn when low; such relatives don't need to be visited.(2) Not visiting relatives who are calculating
Relatives who constantly calculate and scheme are unbearable. Take advantage of opportunities, gain at the expense of others, blinded by profit, disregarding people and prioritizing money, relatives when beneficial, strangers when not. When there is an advantage, they are relatives; when there is no benefit to be gained, they are strangers.
(3) Not visiting relatives who are ungratefulRelatives who are ungrateful are truly exasperating. When they are in need, you exert all your efforts to help. When you are in need, they pretend not to see. Look back, how can one not be 'subdued'? We should treat each other mutually. Unexpectedly, this cultivates opportunistic white-eyed wolves. You are not benevolent towards me, I cannot be unjust; I can only be 'subdued' and avoid it.
Middle-aged people being 'subdued' isn't about cowardice or lack of courage; they shoulder the burdens of elderly parents and growing children. To allow those around them not to regret knowing them. Middle-aged people have become a tree sheltering and protecting loved ones; all their perceived cowardice and lack of courage are for the long-term happiness of those they love.Being a little 'subdued' is actually a clever strategy!
