Advice to Married Couples: A Punch to the Heart!
Wishing you and him can share warmth and comfort in mundane days, accompany with warmth in cold years.
"I just got married."
Liu brother drank a lot when he said this, his face was flushed, with a hint of disappointment in his smile.
A year ago, it was on this table, Liu brother swaggered announcing he finally divorced his ex-wife and returned to freedom.
Liu brother's ex-wife wasn't considered a 'good woman' by our impression.
According to Liu brother, she was boring, prone to nagging, overbearing, and had a bad temper. She had all the desirable qualities of a woman.
Despite Liu brother never taking her to meet us.
Now that 'annoying' ex-wife remarried, we originally wanted to tease Liu brother a few words. But after drinking another cup of wine, Liu brother suddenly covered his face and cried hysterically:
"I always thought she couldn't do anything well, always bothered me, always so dramatic, when she left, she must have been unhappy."
But now I truly realize that this marriage was ruined by me."
So many feelings are destroyed by a single statement of right and wrong.
"In 'Red Rose', there's a lyric: What you can't get, will always make noise, those favored are carefree."
Unknowingly, you never noticed her efforts, only cold words criticizing her.
Unknowingly, you were unwilling to give her a compliment, thinking everything was predetermined.
Too many people think that getting something means losing it, but even the best feelings can be defeated by long-term overdrafting and selfishly assuming it's inevitable.
Feelings don't have to be about counting how much effort you've put in, but they must have a reason.
We are all mortals, after every giving, we will have expectations for the other person.
Repeated indifference will exhaust the other person's patience and enthusiasm.
This world only has willing hearts, not 'rightful' demands. If someone really wants to be with you, that's the greatest reason.
However, love is always lonely.
Even if the days are long, don't forget the passion and emotion of the beginning, when feelings become bland, remember the original promise of mutual support.
Don't waste this love, give the other person a little response, a little respect, a little warmth.
Don't let the marriage that needs two people to maintain, let her fight alone.
So many loves are extinguished by harsh words.
Emotion is the most important wind in the house.
Couldn't you always vent your bad mood on the people you love most?
Used to tolerate the other's compromises, recklessly vent your emotions, petty things explode like thunder;
First reaction is to blame the other person for all the mistakes, never admit your own mistakes.
Our biggest mistake is to give our worst emotions to the people we love most, but to keep patience and tolerance for strangers.
The longer couples get to know each other, the more their behaviors will become similar. Sarcastic and harsh words will only harvest a similar angry and furious partner.
Endless arguing and complaining will corrode people's hearts, making the other person an enemy.
Really good couples are about understanding each other's difficulties.
So when facing one of your momentary carelessness, I will give you understanding, when facing your depression, I will comfort you, when facing your temporary anger, I will try to appease you, and you also understand how to give in.
Fitzgerald once said: There are thousands of ways to love in the world, but none can be repeated.
Love and compromise shouldn't become our reasons to harm each other.
You and her should have a full understanding and appreciation, shouldn't deliberately make the other person your critic.
Don't wait until both hearts are broken before regretting it.
So many marriages die of lack of conversation.
Marriages are more frightening than infidelity, is neglect and indifference.
Sitting at the dining table, but no one speaks.
Sleeping back to face the phone, no communication.
A question, the other person's answer is always 'uh-huh', 'good', 'okay'.
Even if sick, rarely a word of concern.
Have you experienced this?
In the beginning of love, everyone yearns for 'someone to share sunsets with, someone to ask if the soup is warm'.
But when passion and freshness fade away, one party may become bored and exhausted, transforming from respect to 'respectful distance'.
One day you suddenly realize she no longer asks about everything, the familiar rambling is gone, she can do many things alone... Then she will turn to bother others.
A person's endurance is limited, leaving you only regret.
Host Master He Dejian once said:
"What's most important in a relationship?"
Not appearance, not bread, not even loyalty, but sharing.
Those who truly love you will be willing to talk nonsense with you, to care about every detail of your life.
Marriages will eventually become bland, but bland doesn't mean negligence. Without cure-all, there is no cure; no remedy, there is no cure.
Love and compromise shouldn't become our reasons to harm each other.
Feelings start with no words, don't let it die of lack of conversation.
The most important is sharing.
Love and compromise shouldn't become our reasons to harm each other.
You and her should have a full understanding and appreciation, shouldn't deliberately make the other person your critic.
You and her should have a full understanding and appreciation, shouldn't deliberately make the other person your critic.
Don't wait until both hearts are broken before regretting it.
So many marriages die of lack of conversation.
Marriages are more frightening than infidelity, is neglect and indifference.
Sitting at the dining table, but no one speaks.Sleeping back to face the phone, no communication.A question, the other person's answer is always 'uh-huh', 'good', 'okay'.
Even if sick, rarely a word of concern.
Have you experienced this?
