To Get Along with People, As Long As You Understand These Three Rules, You Will Have Good Interpersonal Relationships

Aug. 28, 2025, 9:07 a.m. Essays

As we grow older, we will enter all kinds of circles and meet more people.

Only by handling interpersonal relationships well can we make our lives go smoother.

Businessman Harvey Mackay said: 'Building a network of contacts is like digging a well, paying a little sweat, getting endless wealth.'

Therefore, to succeed, we must learn to handle interpersonal relationships.

And if you understand these 'three rules', you will have good interpersonal relationships.

01Learn to praise others

At the bottom of people's hearts, everyone wants to be valued by others and feel the sense of being praised.

I remember when I was young, there were always two old grandmothers coming out to bask in the sun in the alley, and the children in the village liked to gather around Wang Nanai, while Li Nanai had no one around her.

I often think, why is that?

It turns out that Wang Nanai is amiable and often says 'You are so good' 'You are so cute' 'You are so awesome' to the children, and the children enjoy the feeling of being praised, so they naturally gather around Wang Nanai.

In contrast, Li Nanai is stern, as soon as a child approached her, she would scold them: 'Get out of here! You kids are really naughty, you've ruined my clothes!'

The children were afraid of being scolded, so they stayed away from Li Nanai.

In fact, people all want to be praised, even young children like to be complimented, let alone adults.

So when we get along with people, we should learn to praise others, and we must sincerely praise others, so as not to make others think that we are flattering them, which will instead cause the other party to be against us.

02Maintain a certain distance

Xiaoli was outstanding in grades and had a straightforward personality, so she made a lot of friends when she first entered university.

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Later, she alienated her friends because she always investigated other people's privacy.

Wang Li was Xiaoli's roommate, and she had a poor family background, so she always ate rice dumplings and pickles when her roommates were not at home.

The other roommates knew Wang Li's situation, but they all pretended not to know in order to maintain Wang Li's self-esteem.

But Xiaoli broke the peace maintained by everyone, and in front of Xiaoli's roommates, she asked Wang Li: 'Why do you always eat rice dumplings and pickles? It's not good for your health.' When she heard this, Wang Li's face turned red instantly.

Xiaoli continued to speak endlessly: 'Wang Li, your family is very behind, why don't you tell us what's going on over there, I'm curious.'

Later, Xiaoli's roommates scolded her: 'Why do you always investigate other people's privacy? Give people a space, okay?'

Wang Li was sad and cried, she felt that Xiaoli embarrassed her in front of her classmates, and since then she hadn't spoken to Xiaoli.

Xiaoli was also puzzled, how could she alienate everyone just because she wanted to be kind to Wang Li?

Later, Xiaoli's friends gradually alienated her, even her boyfriend broke up with her.

As the saying goes: distance brings beauty.

It is also necessary to maintain a certain distance when interacting with friends.

It can be clearly seen from Xiaoli that she is too sensitive and doesn't know how to give people space, which leads to the alienation of others.

So we should grasp the 'degree' in interpersonal communication and maintain a sense of distance, so as to have good interpersonal relationships.

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03Never

make excuses for yourselfThere are many people in life who are used to making excuses for their failures, once they encounter difficulties, they won't find the cause from themselves.

I read a story in a newspaper before.

Xiaomu just graduated from university and went to a listed company for an internship.

But unexpectedly, he was dismissed for only knowing how to make excuses.

When he was dismissed, the head of the human resources department said to him: 'We don't need employees who only know how to make excuses!'

Later, people found out that Xiaomu was often late and didn't get along well with his colleagues, he didn't just make excuses for being late, when colleagues asked him for help, he would also make all kinds of excuses to refuse.

Over time, colleagues felt that Xiaomu was a difficult person and didn't want to associate with him.

Later, because of Xiaomu's carelessness, a company project appeared problems, Xiaomu not only didn't take responsibility, but also blamed it on others.

Just in this one time, he was dismissed.

The last sentence of the story says: No one wants to be with someone who always makes excuses for themselves.

There are many people in life who are used to making excuses for their unhappiness, they can never see their own problems, and they are always hiding their shortcomings.

Mature people won't make excuses for their bad luck, they will analyze the reasons for their problems and make things done well, and such people will be trusted by others, and they can have a good social circle.

It doesn't take much effort to have good interpersonal relationships. In the process of getting along with people, as long as you follow these three principles and interact with friends or colleagues, the interaction will become harmonious, and you will have good interpersonal relationships.

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