Make Good Habits Obvious

Most of us overestimate the decisive moments, but underestimate the small daily improvements.

When we first adjust our lives and habits, we are always in a valley of disappointment. For example, the habit of fitness, you try hard, but after a month, two months, or three months, it seems like there is no effect, but once you pass that turning point, you find that the effect comes out.

According to the direction you want to change, you should ask yourself,What kind of person do I really want to become?

Our goal isn't to read a book, but to become a reader. Our goal isn't to run a marathon, but to become a runner. Our goal isn't to learn an instrument, but to become a musician… When you think about problems in this way, your inner motivation will be full because we are adjusting habits to hope that our identity changes.

Why are micro-habits important to us, becauseEvery time you put effort into a micro-habit, it constantly emphasizes this identity to you. When it is repeated again and again, it emphasizes this identity, you will gradually accept this identityThen you tear off the bad labels from your past.

The frightening thing about habits is that once they start, they don't stop. You might just start something and then naturally continue doing it.

For example, if you want to work tonight, but you just sit on the sofa, it's okay, this chain reaction comes. This habitual action makes you sink into it for two or three hours.

So, a bad habit, such as spending every night playing Douyin or reading novels, which makes you very frustrated, if you want to quit it, how should you do it?

First, try to make it less obvious, don't let it be so easy to remind you, or when it reminds you, try to do something else, such as meditation or exercise.

Second, make it lack attractiveness, when you think about it, don't feel like there's anything fun.

Third, make it difficult to implement, such as turning off the internet.

Fourth, make it unpleasant.

For good habits, you should give positive feedback, for bad habits, use negative feedbackYour habits will slowly be corrected.

All bad habits are instant gratification, all good habits are delayed gratification.

So, it's difficult to cultivate good habits. Is there any way to make good habits easier to cultivate?

The first law is to make it obvious.

How can you make a good habit easy to start?

The first way to make a good habit obvious is to use a habit scorecard. Every morning, record: what is my first habit this morning? Record it, if it's a good habit, write a plus sign, if it's a bad habit, write a minus sign. Record it every morning, noon, and night to see how many good habits and how many bad habits you have.

This method of making habits visible will be of great help.

The second method is habit stacking.This is a very effective method that can help us develop good habits.

For example, if you want to develop a habit of fitness, you can say, at 5 pm, I will exercise at the gym for 30 minutes. Then you practice calligraphy, you say, at 7 pm, I will practice calligraphy for 40 minutes. Is this habit stacking – no.

But if we can learn habit stacking, we can add a habit in front of it. For example, after completing a piece of work every day, I will take off my clothes and exercise for 30 minutes. This is because you have to work every day, complete the work, after completing a piece of work, immediately put on sportswear. This is stacking the habit of fitness.

For example, if you want to develop a habit of practicing calligraphy every day, you can say, after dinner every day, I will take out my mobile phone to play calligraphy learning courses and start practicing calligraphy. This is stacking the habit of dinner and calligraphy.

So when you can stack two habits together, the good habit you want to develop will be more and more visible.