Wheat | Ling Xiaomei

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In our youth, we always like to make friends everywhere, eager to deal with all kinds of people, boast about how many people we know, and have a strong network.

But in the end, we realized: knowing many people doesn't mean having a wide network. When you really encounter difficulties and need people to ask for help, they always avoid you, people who laugh at you are many, and very few people are willing to reach out and pull you up.

As we grow older and gain more life experience, we reach a certain age and realize: friendship is not about quantity but about quality, especially after fifty, we no longer want to socialize, it's just the mindset,

People over fifty who have this mindset are really living with insight and understanding. Do you also have this mindset after fifty?

Enjoy the beauty of solitude, don't force yourself to be in a group.

Italian renowned director Fellini said: 'Solitude is a special ability. It gives you an independent space and a sense of freedom. It's a departure of the soul.'

Solitude is a joyful and enjoyable experience. When you're alone, you can stay away from the noise and extravagance, let life return to simplicity and authenticity. People over fifty no longer like to join in the fun, they prefer to be alone, not afraid of loneliness, so they don't want to socialize.

Those who seem sociable and versatile are lonely after the excitement. Solitude is a joyful and also a practice. People over fifty, be an un-social person, there's nothing wrong with that.

I want to get rid of meaningless dinners and cherish time spent with family.

A person's happiness in later life is almost determined by his family. People over fifty, no longer wanting to toast and chat on wine tables, preferring to devote their energy to family.

Because they realized: even the best friends can't accompany you for a lifetime, only family will never leave you. Therefore, people over fifty no longer want to socialize.

They have seen the coldness of human relationships and don't want to pretend to be agreeable.

People should always take off their masks and enjoy being alone, and get along with themselves.

People over fifty have already seen the coldness of human relationships and no longer feel obliged to socialize, no longer saying things that are not in line with their feelings, and doing things that are not in line with their feelings. Instead, they have learned to streamline their social circles and say goodbye to all junk social interactions.

Living in the world, pleasing others is clever, pleasing oneself is wisdom. Different viewpoints don't need to be forced to agree. In life, you don't need to please anyone, just do your best, that's enough,

Xiaomei's message: People over fifty, stay away from low-quality social interactions, be yourself, love yourself.

As we get older, we don't want to please others anymore. After all, we are alive not to please others, but to live a comfortable and happy life.

In short, people over fifty no longer want to attend various dinners, which is actually the three mindsets. Gradually learning to please themselves, and to get along peacefully with themselves.

The fundamental thing in life is to learn how to please yourself. People over fifty, the precious time in their remaining years, learning to please yourself is the most important thing. Try to make their days more exquisite and interesting.

You should know that people over fifty have elderly people and children to take care of, and they don't dare to drop their responsibilities at this time, and this is the stage of the lowest happiness in life. If you don't know how to please yourself, you'll live too hard.

Leave the remaining time in your life, love yourself, don't do things you don't want to do, and live for yourself.

Author: Ling Xiaomei, a writer who loves words and coffee, I'm happy to meet you in my words, using the warmest pen to accompany you to make your life like a poem. Special statement: Image source network, if there is any infringement, please contact to delete, respect the original author.