Low-Quality Socializing is Better Than High-Quality Solitude
After graduating, those who are good at it start posting notifications, collecting fees, and making restaurant reservations on WeChat Moments. Classmates' gatherings are once again on the schedule. So, the editor decisively lurks in shadows.
Life is like a hole-ridden net.So-called classmates' gatherings are an opportunity for everyone who attends to see what 'the sea has changed and the tide has receded,' and what 'years are like knives.'
Low-quality social interaction is better than high-quality solitude.The editor learns that those who don't want to attend classmates' gatherings are mainly due to the following reasons:
1. They are not doing well in their own lives, so they don't want to attend classmates' gatherings. Even if others don't look down on them, but they feel they can't keep up with everyone's living standards.
2. They are disgusted by the boasting in the gatherings. From some time, gatherings have become a boasting meeting. Some people earn money and boast about the projects they hold, worth billions. Some have become officials and boast about who they know, which is amazing. Some have married rich husbands or wives and boast about their wealth. No matter what, if others boast and show off, it doesn't matter to me. I just don't like the appearance of those who boast.
4. They are not very familiar with their classmates. Many people think that classmates' gatherings have no meaning. Friends who were good with each other in school have always maintained contact. Occasionally, want to meet up, find a few good friends to eat together. Do you need to go to such a big gathering?
5. Their own personality reasons. Some people like quiet and don't like noisy environments. These people, if they are allowed to attend such a gathering, they will be ruined. Even if they go, in such a large room, they can't say much, and they will always be a conspicuous presence.
3. The purpose of the gathering is not pure. Many organizers organize classmates' gatherings, saying that it is good, just to connect resources. Saying it's bad, just to say it's difficult. I heard someone became a big boss, someone became an official, or someone knew someone, they want to invite these big bosses to the gathering to see if they can help them. However, the more these big bosses, the less willing they are to attend the gathering, because of the side branches.
Classmates' gatherings are often a form of social comparison.
The reason for the comparison is inferiority in the heart.
In old classmate gatherings, those who always speak up and show off their 'achievements' recall that in their years of studying, they were those who didn't speak much, or didn't often hang out with each other.
Perhaps after growing up, they are respectable in their work or do business and make money, they will try to use some actions or words to prove that they are better than others, better than others.
There is a kind of
Ten years ago, you ignored me, and ten years later, I want you to look at me with admiration.This kind of social interaction makes people around you feel very awkward.
Therefore, classmates' gatherings are better to avoid, your own life almost no one can help you, it's better to live your own life.
The original intention of classmates' gatherings is to connect and reconnect, and to reminisce about the youthful memories of their years when they were young. However, besides emotional connection, old classmates' gatherings rarely reflect social value. More people use these occasions to showcase and compare themselves.The reason for the comparison is inferiority in the heart.In old classmate gatherings, those who always speak up and show off their 'achievements' recall that in their years of studying, they were those who didn't speak much, or didn't often hang out with each other.
