---

---

Author: Wu XueLu

·

Human beauty has both external beauty and internal beauty. External beauty is pleasing to the eye, noticeable, and gives a sudden flash of inspiration. Internal beauty is enduring, from subtle to profound. Compared to each other, I prefer internal beauty. It represents a potential, infinite beauty. It reflects a higher level of cultivation. This beauty can exist at any time, in any place, and give people a sense of relaxation, enjoyment, and serenity.

So, do we need external beauty? Yes, but naturally, don't overdo it, otherwise, the most beautiful reappearance will be lost. Like excessive makeup, losing the essence of beauty will turn into a distorted imitation, losing oneself. Actually, even if Dong Xi is not as beautiful as Xi Shi, she may not be unattractive. If she doesn't deliberately imitate Xi Shi, loses herself, even if it's not beautiful, she won't necessarily be ridiculed by others. Just as too many accessories on clothes will obscure the skills of the clothing designer, and it's hard to see the beauty of the clothing making you stylish, elegant, or rich and noble. At this time, people admire the decorations on your body, not you.

No matter how beautiful flowers will wither and fade, no matter how beautiful a vase, it can only be a supplement, a decoration, not the main character. Even the most beautiful and handsome people will eventually lose their charm. Because people are not saints, there will always be visual fatigue. Just like a straight and wide highway, initially gives a great feeling, driving on this road is a relaxed enjoyment. But after a short time, the driver's visual fatigue is unbearable, the eyelids want to fight, so such a road is actually full of accidents. Therefore, the designer had to change the design, deliberately designing curves, bridges, slopes, and planting various landscapes along the road, so that drivers could change their visual perspective and avoid visual fatigue and accidents. A flower placed in front of you will become familiar to you over time, unless it has a unique charm, you will immerse your life in its world.

As a person, whether a man or a woman, internal beauty is more attractive. It can provide long-term comfort and attract others. For example, their speech, their talent, their personality, their knowledge, their manners, their cognitive abilities, all of these are the result of long-term internal cultivation. When you get along with such people, you won't be annoyed, but you'll find that things are getting more flavorful. Unconsciously, you will also tend to be like them, learn from them, and eventually achieve long-term mutual love, trust, and support.

The ancients left us the word ''—'' comes first, followed by ''. From the surface, '' comes first, and '' is second. But from a deeper perspective, '' is the highest level, and '' is second.

Just like the emperors of the past, they had six courtyards and three palaces, besides the queen, they also had many concubines, or the wealthy families had several wives and concubines. But who did they favor most among all those wives and concubines? Of course, it was the one who '' for them. And the '' ones were just a decorative vase in their eyes. It's fresh at first, but it's easy to become annoying. Many '' ones eventually ended up miserably, and she didn't understand why she failed. She only focused on improving her appearance. But the '' ones invested in both inner and outer beauty, focusing on both the appearance and the cultivation. So, a person who can achieve both '' and '' will undoubtedly be the most outstanding. Actually, saying '' is just a ''—understanding. In the world of love, a '' is the most important. I think '' is more important than love. The highest level of love is to understand.

In friendships, between couples, between parents and children—understand is far more important than love. Love that lacks understanding and comprehension is a burden.

In marital and romantic love, we often see couples like this: some look good-looking, but their lives are not harmonious, always arguing or cold-warring, making life monotonous and without happiness. But some couples who seem incompatible live happily and harmoniously. Why is this? It's not just about similar three views, but mainly because of a ''—understanding.

Therefore, don't let love become a burden, only mutual understanding and appreciation can achieve harmony and happiness. Because only through understanding can we comprehend, only through understanding can we support, only through understanding can we have freedom and independence, and only through understanding can we have more trust. So, '' is more important than love! '' is the highest level of love!

(Image: Wu XueLu)

Author Biography

Author Wu XueLu

Wu XueLu, online nickname '', from Kunming, Yunnan, a Chinese language teacher, loves literature, photography, and travel. His works have been published in various newspapers and magazines, as well as on search engine platforms such as Sohu, Toutiao, Tencent, Baidu, and Qiyun.

Look, turn, share

,