Considering this, considering that, who cares about you?
In life, you don't want to see friendships break, when friends need help, you always readily agree without hesitation.
In relationships, you're afraid of losing, you prioritize the other person in everything, and do your best to make things work for them.
At work, you worry about conflicts and habitually act as a 'good person' with no bad temper.
But have you ever thought about whether your consideration and effort are worth it?
Your excessive thoughtfulness and compromise, will anyone understand it? And will your sincere efforts be cherished?
After experiencing kindness misunderstood and genuine feelings betrayed, you'll learn how cold and shallow human relationships can be, and how foolish it is to always consider others' needs.
In this world, there aren't many people who genuinely reciprocate your efforts; you compromise yourself to help others, and in return, you often receive indifference and even exacerbate the situation.
Three-Finger Tree (Sanmao) recorded her experiences during her studies in France.
Before going abroad, her mother repeatedly advised her to be flexible and tolerant, and to always consider things from another person's perspective. Three-Finger Tree followed her mother's advice, suppressed her own temper, and often proactively cleaned the room and made the bed for her roommates.
Once, because of a physical ailment, she hadn't had time to clean her room, and her roommate came back to see a messy room, and began to scold Three-Finger Tree.
In order not to create a conflict, Three-Finger Tree chose to yield, but surprisingly, her roommates became increasingly demanding, asking her to do everything for them: 'The floor is dirty, clean it up,' 'Help me get a meal,' 'Help me tidy my clothes' and so on.
One evening, several roommates were drinking in the dormitory when the dean suddenly came to inspect, and Three-Finger Tree, who was always well-behaved, was scolded for breaking the rules, while her roommates didn't speak up for her.
In your interactions, you're willing to suppress your edges and consider others, even forcing yourself to do things you don't want to do, and help them.
The result? Will anyone appreciate your efforts, or care about you in the slightest?
In human relationships, who cares about you when you're considerate of others? Who will care about you in the slightest?
Never underestimate human nature, nor overestimate the power of emotions.
Don't be too concerned about being understood or forcing yourself to always be available. When you need to refuse, refuse. When you need to be ruthless, be ruthless. Don't let your willingness to compromise be your weakness.
In your lifetime, there are few relationships that deserve your sincere dedication. Don't foolishly shoulder everything on your own. This will only encourage those who don't appreciate you and aren't sincere.
Don't blindly give and sacrifice yourself, or become a 'soft target' that others can manipulate.
Instead, focus on your own feelings and let your inner principles be your guide, and don't compromise yourself.
You are the most precious person in this world.
