What You See Reflects What Lies Within Your Heart
Young Su Dongpo sat in meditation with Buddhist monk Fulin.
Su Dongpo said, 'Master, look at me sitting here like what?'
Fulin said, 'You seem like a Buddha.'
Su Dongpo scoffed, 'But I see you look like a pile of excrement!'
Fulin smiled slightly.
After returning home, Su Dongpo told Su Xiao about the incident.
Su Xiao listened and said, 'Because I am a Buddha, I see others also look like Buddha; if I am a pile of excrement, I see others also look like excrement.'
People are one's own mirror, when you see someone like what, you are also like that.
Disliking someone else is not necessarily because someone is wrong, it may just be that one cannot understand.
Don't always want to change others, first adjust your own heart, cultivate this heart well.
Understand perspective taking.
Mr. Nan Hai Jin in '' says:
People claim to be spirits, it's what people say about themselves, perhaps in the eyes of pigs, cattle, dogs, and horses, people are the worst.
All things in the world have their own positions, when standing on one's own position, what appears to be righteous, if shifted to another perspective, may not appear so pleasing.
The mother and her five-year-old child always went shopping, but the child didn't like to go to the mall.
The mother was very puzzled, there were so many goods in the mall, why didn't the child like it?
The mother once thought that the child was deliberately arguing.
Until one day, the child's shoelaces came undone, the mother knelt down to tie the shoelaces, and suddenly saw a terrifying sight: all the legs and arms were shaking in front of her.
So she picked up the child and quickly left the store. Since then, even when she had to take the child to the mall, she would always carry the child on her shoulder.
Those who understand perspective taking are mature, and it is also a cultivation.
Don't make hasty judgments.
Respect others' differences.
A husband loves to eat durian, but his wife thinks it smells very bad. But after marrying for decades, the wife would always buy durian when shopping, and the husband would eat it on the lawn of the neighborhood after chewing gum.
The two have been living peacefully for decades.
The ancients said, 'A son is not a fish, how can you know the joy of a fish?'
Everyone has their own way of living, everyone has different life styles, hobbies, facing those who cannot understand, with tolerant heart to accommodate.
Disliking someone is not necessarily because someone is wrong, it may just be that one cannot understand.
Immaturity is to center oneself, to treat everything in one's own value system as the only correct, with those differing opinions, are all wrong, is a low level.
Maturity is to allow and respect others' difference, not to carelessly comment on others.
When you dislike someone, don't immediately judge, try to understand the other person, respect others' difference.
As for maturity, it is to constantly remove 'self-attachment', facing those we don't understand, no longer point fingers, but try to accommodate, accept.
Seeing everyone pleasingly is a wisdom, also a cultivation.
This article is excerpted from '-', aiming to disseminate traditional Chinese medicine prescription and culture.
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