It's Not Time That Changes You, But Life
I used to hear from my mother that as people get older, this is wrong, that is wrong, their eyesight deteriorates, and they become dumber and more clumsy, and their abilities decline, and even the things they used to do well can no longer be done, let alone cooking which is no longer as delicious as before.
I listened to her, and I always thought she was exaggerating the fear of aging. As people get older, it's just a change in appearance. Even if some parts of the body age and become unusable, and some organs decline in function, their minds will always remain unchanged, and their personalities will never change. Therefore, strong people remain strong as they age, capable people remain capable as they age, and courageous people remain courageous as they age, will they become incompetent and fragile?
Young people simply don't understand the fear of aging, or are they just naive? When you slowly grow up and don't yet experience old age, the difference between your younger self and your current self is significant.
In your youth, you're fearless and don't care about what others say, you don't care about success or failure, you have the capital to strive, regardless of the outcome.
Drivers often say that old drivers are timid, while beginners are bold. As the car drives, the driver's courage decreases. This is the same principle. The more you experience, the more fearful you become; the more you have, the more afraid you are of losing it; young people don't fear death because they don't know what death is. Middle-aged people fear death because they have dependents, and elderly people are even more afraid of death, feeling the approach of death every day.
Young people don't care about minor illnesses and drag them on; middle-aged people check for health dangers as soon as they appear, fearing any loss; elderly people view a minor illness as a disaster, filled with worry and fear.
In your youth, you make decisions decisively and have a strong opinion; in middle age, you start to hesitate and consider many consequences; in old age, you completely lose the courage to make decisions, often disturbed by others' words and deeds, and weep with sadness.
Young people think they can handle anything, even if the sky falls, they don't care; in middle age, you start to think and worry, always thinking about the consequences; in old age, you often become restless and sleepless because of a single word or matter, weeping and crying.
We thought that growing old meant becoming stronger and more resilient, but the reality is that it hasn't grown our energy, and the increase in age hasn't brought the so-called strength, but the hardships of life and the gains and losses have shattered our courage, making us learn to be timid and fearful.
Experience makes us more fearful; having more means being more afraid of losing it; youthful boldness was just youthful folly; carefree joy was because of ignorance at the time.
Growth and maturity don't necessarily mean becoming braver or stronger. In the face of gains and losses, happiness and sorrow, we have learned to live cautiously.
Copyright statement: The text is irrelevant to the picture, and the purpose of reposting this article is to transmit more information. If there is an error in the source labeling or infringement of your legal rights, please contact the author with the proof of ownership, and we will promptly correct, delete, thank you.
