The Most Comfortable Way to Get Along in Intimate Relationships is Like This
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In intimate relationships, some people like to be close to their partners, calling each other several times a day, meeting each other every day, and sending messages every day. This seemingly sweet love could potentially lead to conflicts and crises in the future.
In relationships, failing to maintain distance, and constantly clinging to each other, might actually improve the relationship, and make both parties more familiar and understand each other. However, arguments are inevitable.
Without boundaries, a sweet relationship quickly fades and doesn't last long because people can't maintain a comfortable state, always wanting the other person to belong entirely to them.
He can't have friends, he can't have social circles, he must return home on time, if both of them think this way, possessiveness will eventually destroy this relationship. This is inevitable.
Those who understand how to maintain distance in relationships will have a more comfortable interaction, and their love will be well-maintained.
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Li Lu talked about two relationships, the first time, she was like a child with anxiety, Li Lu always feared that her boyfriend wouldn't love her and would abandon her, so she would always ask her boyfriend if he loved her and tell him that if he didn't, she would tell him.
At that time, in her opinion, love is possession, Li Lu wanted to always be by his side, accompany him on both sides, not wanting to leave at any time. When they were just dating, her boyfriend would coax her, listen to her in everything, and try to concede to her in everything. However, when love became commonplace, he lost patience, and the arguments between the two people became more and more, her boyfriend wanted independent space, but Wang Lu thought that couples should be together all the time. This love went into a dead end.
This way, they broke up, and later met Zhang Hao, Wang Lu realized that even in relationships, it's necessary to maintain distance, and moreover, after dating Zhang Hao, she had her own job and career, she was no longer the child with anxiety.
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Mutual independent space, the relationship will be more intimate
Some people don't want to give their partners independent space, but want to possess them, want the other person to accompany them at any time. However, this interaction pattern will only make the other person feel suffocated.
If one party feels uncomfortable in the relationship, then the relationship is problematic. Everyone is an independent individual, allowing the other person to have independent space will make their relationship closer, and their relationship will get better.
Just as host Li Ai said she and her husband's interaction mode, her husband is her agent, and the two people often stay together for 24 hours to give her husband an independent space, so she decided to separate bedrooms, and this made them even more loving.
In intimate relationships, understanding how to maintain distance, partners will often have no one to disturb them, they can focus on their own things, and their relationship will become even more intimate. Maintaining distance, allows couples to interact more harmoniously, and the other half will also want to spend time with them.
Maintaining intimate relationships, one of the important prerequisites is not interfering with each other, let each other have the right to choose, give each other independent space, only when the relationship is comfortable, it can be long-lasting.
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We should all understand that the most comfortable way to interact in intimate relationships is to understand how to maintain distance, which means allowing the other person to have independent space, and not restricting the other person's freedom.
Moreover, don't try to change the other person, everyone has their own characteristics, and everyone has their own way of life, respect each other, understand how to maintain distance, so that couples can be harmonious for a long time.
Some people say that the first sight of a couple is better than a long-term relationship, to maintain a relationship, you must understand how to maintain distance.
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