Don't Force Your Way Into a Circle That Doesn't Belong to You
I once heard Chen Anzhi lecture and he said something very insightful. He said: When the people around you earn 100,000 yuan, you earn 100,000 yuan. When the people around you earn a million yuan, you earn a million yuan. When the people around you earn tens of millions of yuan, you earn tens of millions of yuan. He told you a principle: you are what your surroundings are; you are what your circle is. What kind of circle you are in, that's what your income will be.
Chen Zi
People always want to squeeze into a higher circle, but is it really easy? If you don't belong in a circle, you're like a garlic pushing into an orange. Because a circle is not established overnight; it requires various factors, such as culture, level, economy, and vision. It's not just about reaching a certain amount of money to enter. You can't be a princess just because you're beautiful, nor can you be a prince just because you're handsome. It requires a foundation of culture and procedures.
In the world, everything is difficult to go as you wish. People are not as good as you. The size of the circle is determined by you. And whether the circle is suitable for you, you need to be discerning. If it brings benefits to you, it's suitable for you. If it doesn't bring benefits, you're worse than the circle, and it brings you trouble. It's not suitable for you.
Don't be proactive, don't expect, don't rely on, don't bother, don't self-pity, don't force it, don't demand, don't beg, don't hoard, don't expect, don't be disappointed. What is yours is yours; what is not yours, even if you spend too much, it's wasted. Life is like this, and life is like this, the world is like this. February is over, March is coming, March is over, April is coming, but people? They've lost a year if they've passed a year; life doesn't come back. Time doesn't either.
Don't force it if it doesn't fit. It's not worth breaking your head and bleeding. When you're strong enough, the corresponding circle will proactively absorb you, letting you thrive and progress further. Life will become more and more beautiful!
Don't pursue perfection, but hope for contentment! Be happy and live happily and joyfully!
