Zhuge Liang: Comfortable relationships are most important; friendship should be like water.
Zhuge Liang said, 'The friendship between gentlemen is as gentle as water, and the friendship between petty people is as sweet as honey.'
The friendship between gentlemen is characterized by mutual tolerance, lack of coercion, lack of jealousy, lack of clinging, and appears as plain water to ordinary people.
A quiet and unassuming friendship lasts long.
A quiet and unassuming friendship, a gentle and light joy, a willingness to chat and share, a willingness to speak openly, without hiding or burdening oneself, is a comfortable state.
Comfort is the most important thing in human relationships.
In life, money, fame and fortune are all illusory; ultimately, the most important thing is to make oneself feel happy, live comfortably and freely.
A pleasant first meeting is better than a long-lasting annoyance, and a comfortable relationship is a happiness.
In life, we must avoid losing happiness with those who cause us friction, and forget happiness with those we like.
People should be flexible; friendship should be based on affinity. Some people are immediately friendly, while others become strangers even after a long time.
However, the comfort in human relationships mainly depends on the joint efforts of both parties!
Learning to get along with others is more useful and important than learning to make money.
To achieve a pleasant interaction with others, it is advisable to try to do the following three things.
Do not gossip or criticize others.
Do not interfere, do not disturb, do not obsessively focus on others' world, do not demand, do not turn, do not speculate on others' thoughts, do not pry, do not point fingers, do not judge others' lives.
There are always some people in life who like to comment on you and hurt you from their own perspective.
In this case, you can respond with one sentence: 'We are human, but not all humans.'
Do not cater to others.
Zhuge Liang said, 'To be together without a fixed purpose, to be together without a fixed purpose, to be together without a fixed purpose, to be together without a fixed purpose.'
This means mutual interaction without forcing, mutual assistance without purpose.
We cannot please everyone, so when interacting with others, we should appropriately give up catering, not deliberately flatter, and be ourselves.
During the reign of Emperor Song, there was a man named Ding Weiyi who served as Vice Minister of Rites.
At that time, the Minister of Rites was Kou Xun, and Ding Weiyi was extremely respectful and flattering to his superior.
One day, the imperial court held a meeting. After the meeting, the Minister of Rites, Vice Minister and others dined together.
Kou Xun's beard was stained with soup, and Ding Weiyi came to wipe it off. The saying at that time was 'slimy and flattering.'
Kou Xun said sternly: 'Your kindness is rare, but as a minister, to flatter your superior in public is a loss of dignity.'
Ding Weiyi was very ashamed.
The saying 'slimy and flattering' originated from this.
Do not make others embarrassed.
A comfortable state in human relationships is that you will not feel embarrassed or awkward, no matter what happens.
When embarrassment occurs, it is necessary to promptly intervene.
During the Qing Dynasty, there was a salt merchant who hosted a banquet at his home. Among the guests was one of the 'Eight Freemen of Yangzhou,' Jin Nong.
After drinking for a long time, the guests decided to play a drinking game, asking everyone to recite a poem containing 'flying' and 'red,' or they would be fined to drink. Starting from the host, the salt merchant suddenly recited: 'The willow trees fly and leaves of red.'
As everyone knows, willow trees are white, except Jin Nong, everyone laughed heartily. The salt merchant immediately blushed.
At this time, Jin Nong said: 'Why do you all laugh? This is a famous poem by Yuan Dynasty poet.'
Everyone was skeptical, Jin Nong smiled slightly and recited the poem: 'Twenty-four bridges, twenty-four winds, leaning on the railing, recalling the old Jiangdong. Sunset reflects the peach blossoms, willow trees fly and leaves of red.'
Everyone cheered.
This is not a poem by Yuan Dynasty poet, but Jin Nong's ingenuity to save the salt merchant.
The next day, the salt merchant thanked Jin Nong and gave him one thousand two taels of silver.
Caption: The Ten Essential Truths of Zhuge Liang, Worth Contemplating!
1. A simple and pure nature is the most perfect in the world.
If a person can maintain a simple and original nature, he is the most perfect person in the world.
2. Tao is hidden in small accomplishments, and language is hidden in splendor.
Prejudice hinders the pursuit of truth, and eloquence obscures the truth.
3. The greatest joy is to be free from worldly pleasure, and the highest honor is to be free from worldly honor.
The greatest happiness is to be free from worldly pleasures, and the highest honor is to be free from worldly honors. If we can let go of worldly money, beauty, power, and honor, we may appreciate the true happiness in life.
4. Those who seek fame and fortune are prone to misfortune and disaster.
Because of interests, people associate together and inevitably lead to misfortune and disaster. Friendship based on interests will end when interests cease, and true friendship comes from shared interests and values in life.
5. Those with deep desires are prone to darkness.
If a person is too greedy for desires, his nature and wisdom will be obscured. When people indulge in pleasures such as money, beauty, power, and sleep, their judgment will be affected, and they may lose wisdom.
6. The more one attempts to conceal one's actions, the more difficult it is to succeed.
Without leaving traces when walking, it is difficult to do it.
7. Those who are wise and virtuous can accept the inevitable with composure.
When we know that our situation is beyond our control, we can accept it with composure, only those with high morals can do this.
8. Success in small matters is greater than success in large matters.
Do not compete with petty people in small matters, and only achieve victory in larger matters.
9. Those who seek fame and fortune are prone to misfortune and disaster.
10. The friendship between gentlemen is as gentle as water, and the friendship between petty people is as sweet as honey; the friendship between gentlemen is long-lasting, while the friendship between petty people is easily broken.
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