Children's Five Non-Complaints and Parents' Seven Non-Accusations
When you are a child, practice 'five non-complaints,' and when you become a parent, practice 'seven non-accusations,' perhaps life will be brighter!
Loving Parents: 'Five Non-Complaints'
1. Don't complain about parents' inability.
No one is perfect, and no one is infallible! Parents gave us life and expended immense effort to raise us to adulthood; it's already a great effort. We shouldn't complain, saying 'Dad should be a certain kind of dad, Mom should be a certain kind of mom.' Instead, we should sincerely say, 'I accept you as you are; I accept that you are my parents; I enjoy everything you give me.'
2. Don't complain about parents' nagging.
Parents know us better than we know ourselves. They learned through experience and took care of themselves before giving birth to us. When we were born, dedicating their remaining lives to caring for us became their voluntary choice—telling us to dress, teaching us to eat, hoping we'll be safe… Only those who truly love you will nag you. Parents will never nag someone who has nothing to do with them.
3. Don't complain about parents' criticisms.
Parents complain about us because they're not satisfied with our performance. When we're doing well enough, they want us to be even better! They don't do it for themselves; perhaps they've had many disappointments in their lives, perhaps they've worked very hard, but they can't share it with anyone, so they yearn for us to be better, even if it's not to become a dragon or phoenix, parents just hope we can surpass them, not like them.
4. Don't complain about parents' slowness.
As they age, their movements naturally become less agile. We should never look down on parents' slowness, because we can never imagine how patiently they taught us to walk when we were young. When parents were young, they may have been full of energy! They did it for us. Parents bent their backs in service to us. If one day, parents become old and their legs aren't as nimble, we must remember: when we look at parents, we're looking at our own future; filial piety must be done promptly.
5. Don't complain about parents' illness.
No matter how busy parents are, no matter if it's day or night, if I'm sick, they'll immediately put aside all their busy work and rush to take care of me, staying up all night to protect me. When did parents ever get to do that? Isn't it true that sons and daughters don't take care of their parents when they're old? We often see news reports of children not taking care of their aging parents; can we be the kind of people who wholeheartedly care for and take care of our parents…
Life is not meant for complaining. As we grow older, parents slowly age, and eventually leave us. Without parents, there is no us. Complaining about parents is better than understanding parents. If parents can't accept you, why bother to take care of you in the world. Filial piety comes first, starting now, don't complain about parents anymore.
'Seven Non-Accusations' for Children
1. Don't criticize children in public.
2. Don't criticize a child who is already ashamed and regretful.3. Don't criticize a child at night.
4. Don't criticize a child while they're eating.5. Don't criticize a child when they're happy.
6. Don't criticize a child when they're crying.7. Don't criticize a child when they're sick.
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