Arguments as the Best Standard for Marriage
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A happy marriage, increase love with quarrels
A few weeks ago, a friend who works in the civil affairs bureau told me a story.
A young couple quarreled and argued at the civil affairs bureau to apply for divorce.
The friend saw them arguing fiercely, so he asked:
Why do you want to divorce?
The woman immediately retorted: I can't stand it, he always gets up without brushing his teeth to eat, every time he reminds him, but he doesn't listen, he insists on eating after finishing his meal, he's so unhygienic;
The man didn't want to be inferior, 'I don't love you, it's you who always make things difficult for me, every day because of these small things, it's embarrassing to look at.'
The friend listened to them and smiled helplessly, 'The printer is broken today, come pick it up tomorrow, think about it at home.'
The couple could only leave dejectedly
The next day, as soon as the civil affairs bureau opened, the friend saw the man who had quarreled yesterday rush over with a smile, 'Sorry, we don't want to divorce anymore, you've caused trouble.'
The friend joked, 'Wow, you're not arguing anymore? It was never intended to give you a divorce, husband and wife quarreling and arguing is normal, don't always come to divorce!'
The friend said, 'Actually, when they came to divorce that day, the printer hadn't broken.'
Let them come tomorrow to think about it
Working for many years, it's easy to see which people are truly unhappy and which people are just angry
Generally speaking, those who argue endlessly and accuse each other of couples are often able to be saved
However, some are completely indifferent, without arguing, and politely say goodbye, which is generally difficult to change
In 'The Rules of Happy Marriage', it is said: 'Even the happiest marriage will have 200 times of divorce thoughts in this world, 50 times of trying to kill each other.'
A good marriage is forged through a little bit of hardship and small details, inevitably there will be quarrels
It's a matter of caring about you to spend all your energy quarreling, because you care, you don't need a grain of sand
The most afraid of marriage is not quarreling, but not speaking
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Smart couples know how to be reserved when arguing
Some say: 100-degree hot water will cool down, how can 37-degree heart not?
Quarrel for the purpose is not to hurt, but to solve problems
Don't casually mention 'divorce', don't point out each other's shortcomings, don't hurt each other's self-esteem
Kuo Na Xin once talked about arguing with her husband, Huang Guilin, in the show 'I Am a Performer'
She said that when she argued with Huang Guilin, she got so angry that she lost her mind and scolded Huang Guilin:
'Why do you deserve me, Kuo Na Xin? Do you know that you have been divorced, you are a second-hand person?'
Huang Guilin listened without retort, turned to pack his luggage, when he reached the door he said to her:
'Na Xin, some words can't be said.'
The next three days, Kuo Na Xin couldn't find Huang Guilin, she couldn't reach him, no one knew him, and she was panicked
She realized how much she had hurt Huang Guilin
Words spoken are like water spilled, you can't take it back
In life, too many couples turn quarrels into accusations, and don't give in It's not because of winning or losing, but to understand each other more Home is about love, not about logic The purpose of quarreling is not to hurt, but to understand each other A family is about love, not about logic
Wishing that in the future, we can all speak well, quarrel well, warm each other in the mundane days, and accompany each other warmly in the cold years
Will arguing be long-lasting?
A person says: the highest answer is that happy couples don't argue.
Many women quarrel with you, not to get the correct answer, just to see your attitude when arguing
I heard a story, a husband and wife quarreled, the husband got up and left
The wife shouted, 'You go out of this door, don't come back'
Unexpectedly, after 10 minutes, the husband rushed back with a smile, holding a bag of fresh fish in his hand
The wife was surprised by the husband's behavior
A good love is like this, even if eight hundred times want to kill each other, they will choose the opposite direction at the door to buy vegetables for her
Lin Yutang said: 'If the marriage between you and your wife doesn't have any human feeling, and you don't quarrel at all, it's a kind of art.'
A good marriage is forged through a little hardship and small details, inevitably there will be quarrels
Yang Geng and Qian Zhongshu's love was praised by others as a talented couple. However, they also had arguments
The reason was about the French word 'bon' and its pronunciation
Yang Geng said that Qian Zhongshu pronounced it incorrectly, and Qian Zhongshu didn't agree
They argued endlessly, and said some hurtful words
Yang Geng asked a French lady to confirm, and the French lady confirmed that Qian Zhongshu pronounced it wrongly
In the end, Yang Geng won, and Qian Zhongshu lost, but no one was happy
They decided to communicate well in the future, regardless of the problem, and didn't need to be the same, but maintain their own opinions
Later, Yang Geng and Qian Zhongshu quarreled, Qian Zhongshu always yielded to her, sometimes she reflected on her mistakes
Qian Zhongshu said: 'Even if you win, what's the use? Winning the logic, losing the emotion, losing you, my life has nothing to do with it. There must be someone who is making noise and someone who is laughing, someone is arguing and someone is soothing.'
Some say, choose a partner, don't look at how happy he makes you when you meet, but how angry he makes you
Small quarrels are pleasant, big quarrels hurt
The purpose of quarreling is not to win or lose, but to understand each other more
Family is about love, not about logic
Wishing that in the future, we can all speak well, quarrel well, warm each other in the mundane days, and accompany each other warmly in the cold years.
Will arguing be long-lasting?
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