Accepting Imperfect Parents Allows You to Truly Mature!
Awakening
A person's maturity is reflected in whether they have understood the following three questions:
1: Parents are just ordinary people,
Understanding this question means no longer facing parents with a childlike mindset, and also accepting their shortcomings and imperfections, and no longer complaining, which will inevitably improve the relationship with parents.
2: One is just an ordinary person
Understanding this question allows you to have a normal attitude towards yourself, accept yourself, and diligently do things seriously, but you won't be obsessed with the results. You will treat others without inferiority or arrogance, deeply understand what you can and cannot do.
3: Children are just ordinary people
Thinking about this can help you let go of excessive expectations for your child, alleviate anxiety triggered by your child's learning performance, and understand that what your child needs most, your parents often cannot give – unconditional love. You will stop worrying about your child's uncertain future and instead dedicate yourself to accompanying your child in the present moment.
Parents are all villains, why is it wrong?
The more you read, the more you study psychology, and the more you revisit your original family trauma, the more you understand your past,
Especially after reading 'Why Home Hurts,' you feel that your parents are absolutely despicable.
In this issue, you need to distinguish between the two: Does your parent not love you, or do your parents lack the ability to love you? The former is a willingness, the latter is a capability. If it's a willingness, it means there's a choice, a deliberate conclusion, then it's obvious that your parents are bad and unforgivable!
Animal instinct – mother hens instinctively love their chicks, it's the same.
If it's a capability problem, it means your parents don't have a choice, they can only treat you this way, and in their view, this way of treating you is the maximum love they can give.
