Why Do People Hate Those Who Have Done Them Favors?

She quickly contacted the boy and provided a substantial donation.

She also made a promise to continue supporting him until he finished his studies.

Since the money problem was solved, the boy began to focus on his studies.

In the first college entrance examination, he fell short.

Sun Li encouraged him, 'It's okay, as long as you are willing to study, I will always support you.'

In the second college entrance examination, the boy got on the list.

Sun Li was delighted, 'Congratulations on your success, I will continue to support you, I will pay for your tuition, buy you a mobile phone, and provide you with living expenses.'

A veritable Bodhisattva.

However, after the boy went to college, his conscience became a little uneasy.

He began to demand more and more, School gave him a subsidy of 6000 yuan, and he continued to ask Sun Li for money privately, asking for another 500 for living expenses, and then asked Sun Li for another.

He became a 'vampire' after college, constantly demanding and exploiting others, and his demands became increasingly audacious.

Sun Li was startled and stopped supporting the boy's education.

The boy was furious!

He launched attacks on Sun Li online, accusing her of being heartless and trampling on his dignity.

He also published a 6000-word essay criticizing her.

This is truly unbelievable:

A child who had been supported for 10 years suddenly hated the benefactor.

Seeing this blatant hatred, Sun Li wept bitterly, 'Is this the world? Is there still sincerity between people?'Unfortunately, human nature is unpredictable.

When you first extend a hand to help him, he may express his gratitude and kneel at your feet; when you provide him with the 100th favor, he may turn against you, and he will take your position, and he will have the same resources as you.

This is a 'white-eyed wolf' – it's not uncommon in our lives.

So, how did the psychological reversal from gratitude to hatred form?

'Fantasy is Reality' gives the answer:

When he is on the conscious level, he is grateful and acknowledges your kindness; but on the subconscious level, he harbors a different emotion – hatred.

When you extend a helping hand, besides receiving a sense of conscience, you also gain a sense of moral and status superiority.

But when the recipient receives assistance, he feels a momentary happiness, but deep in his heart, he is angry, jealous, and harbors hatred.

Because people are inherently seeking equality and striving for excellence, they crave for these things.When someone is helped, he subconsciously feels a sense of resentment, which is intensified by jealousy.

The conscience and moral will try to suppress this resentment, but when the resentment accumulates over time, it can grow into a massive force that overwhelms their morality and reason, transforming them into 'white-eyed wolves'.

For example, the boy who attacked Sun Li.

He was a bachelor student, and he knew that even if he was helping, it was out of duty, not because she had to comply with his wishes. But subconsciously, he hated Sun Li and jealousy.

But he couldn't help it. He felt that Sun Li was targeting him, and he wanted to dominate her.

Accumulating these emotions, when he suddenly exploded, he didn't care about right or wrong.

Hatred is a common and subtle psychological phenomenon.

However, this phenomenon is suppressed by conscience and morality.

It exists in the subconscious, and it's difficult for us to detect.

Yes, this is another human flaw.

But this sad truth also rings a bell for us.

1. Don't let yourself become a 'white-eyed wolf.'

First, recognize the resentment in your subconscious, let it surface, and confront it. I have experienced this myself.

For a period of time, my papers were very bad, and I didn't want to submit them to the editor for review.

The editor was very kind.

When he saw my bad papers, he didn't immediately reject them; instead, he pointed out the problems one by one and asked me to revise them.

Honestly, I was very grateful for this help.

But subconsciously, when I was revising the paper, I suddenly felt a terrifying emotion, which flashed through my mind.

It was a fleeting hatred.

Why should he criticize me? Why shouldn't he be the editor?He was jealous of the editor's position.

Accumulating these emotions, when he suddenly exploded, he didn't care about right or wrong.

Hatred is a common and subtle psychological phenomenon.

However, this phenomenon is suppressed by conscience and morality.

It exists in the subconscious, and it's difficult for us to detect.

Yes, this is another human flaw.

But this sad truth also rings a bell for us.

1. Don't let yourself become a 'white-eyed wolf.'

'' recorded a story:

A daughter was warned before getting married, 'When you get married, try not to do 'good things'.'

The daughter asked, 'What if I don't do 'good things'?'

The mother replied, 'You can't do 'good things'!'

This 'good deed' refers to indiscriminate kindness – because kindness can lead to resentment, it's best to avoid it.

This daughter's approach is also important – we shouldn't blindly do good deeds, but should also be cautious.

When you are in a position of power, be careful not to give too much to the weaker side, lest it be exploited. When you are weak, be careful not to blindly give kindness, lest it be taken advantage of.

The key is balance. You can't become a white-eyed wolf because of imbalance. You shouldn't be blinded by kindness, and you shouldn't be overly demanding.

One bowl of rice nurtures the benefactor, and one bucket of rice nurtures the enemy. Because of this, when you are benevolent, you will eventually encounter a 'white-eyed wolf.'

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