She Stabbed Herself 7 Times in Front of Her 6-Year-Old Son: Behind Every Collapsing Mother, There's an Overbearing Mother-in-Law and a Absent Husband

Author: Wenzi

Source: Boy Pai(ID: boy666dj)

Only mother is happy, children can be happy.

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The Ankui case of Ms. Deng and her in-laws living together and having conflicts was a common sight.

On this day, her 6-year-old son was naughty and disruptive, and Ms. Deng repeatedly warned him without effect. In a fit of anger, Ms. Deng beat her son.

Ms. Deng's mother-in-law, seeing her beloved grandson being beaten, was both heartbroken and angry, so she scolded Ms. Deng.

The already emotional Ms. Deng was further incensed by her mother-in-law's criticism.

Looking at her son, he grabbed his eyes and stared at her, like an enemy, while gaping his mouth and sobbing.

Feeling exhausted both physically and mentally, Ms. Deng instinctively grabbed a fruit knife from beside her and plunged it into herself,

This resulted in7 cuts

The doctor was completely astonished that Ms. Deng had done this herself. He believed that most people wouldn't do more than 2 cuts.

Isn't it amazing how much rage it takes to make a mother do such a thing?

She often went into a rage over the arguments and quarrels between her two children, and eventually became a mess.

Under the guidance of the parenting expert, the mother's irritability was revealed.

Her family had two mischievous children and a husband who worked late every night, constantly criticizing her wife for not doing a good job,

Her husband said: 'Before marriage, she was a gentle and individual woman, but after having the first child, she became so unreasonable.'

The parenting expert, without hesitation, pointed out:

'Because you criticize her everything, you are a husband who doesn't care about anything, your family is a 'lao-gu' style parenting, your wife is being tortured by children, not by you.'

This may be the reason why Chinese mothers are full of anger and resentment,

Towards her husband who arbitrarily deviated from her, and her mother-in-law who did not reject her, and the endless cycle of apathetic excuses,

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Unexpectedly, after the mother-in-law moved in, the conflicts increased, and she even had a rift with her husband's relationship.

When her mother-in-law was pregnant, her friend's mother-in-law was brought from her hometown to take care of her.

At first, her friend was still grateful, thinking that her mother-in-law was quite considerate of her.

But the conflicts soon appeared subtly.

The mother-in-law didn't like her to eat fruit and drink milk every day, saying that her son didn't earn enough money and shouldn't spend extravagantly.

Sometimes, when she was hungry in the evening, she didn't dare to bother her mother-in-law, so she called her husband to make something to eat.

The mother-in-law kept saying that she didn't understand her feelings, and that her wife was too extravagant.

She asked her husband to explain to her mother-in-law.

Unexpectedly, when the mother-in-law heard this, she burst into tears and waved her hands, saying that her parents didn't treat her well when they raised her son, and the husband's wife forgot her parents after marrying her.

Finally, the mother-in-law's emotions were calmed down by her son and her husband's appeasement.

Her friend also thought that it was different between generations, and that the elderly had the thinking of the elderly. So, she should accommodate the elderly.

But after having a child, she realized what 'no boundaries' meant.

The child needed to be fed at a certain time, and the mother-in-law needed to supervise;

The child needed to wear certain clothes, and eat certain milk powder, the mother-in-law needed to supervise;

The mother wanted to buy something, the mother-in-law would also supervise;

When the mother bought something, the mother-in-law would always count the price, and if it was slightly more expensive, she would criticize her for being extravagant;

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Looking at her husband, under the mother-in-law's constant brainwashing, he gradually revealed his nature:

Originally, she would go home early to jointly bring up the child, but now she often said that she was busy with her work and attending events, often not returning home until the middle of the night;

Originally, she would also help her massage her back and rub her shoulders, but now when she called her, she said she was tired and couldn't do it;

Originally, they could communicate with each other, but now they would just say 'My mother helps take care of the child, how can she be bothered'

And the mother-in-law's authority became more and more obvious,

Friends felt unbearable of her mother-in-law's intrusion, after talking with her husband, she decided to send her mother-in-law back to her hometown and hire a nanny.

Fortunately, her husband was quite sensible and persuaded her mother-in-law to go back.

It's undeniable that the most common reasons for husband and wife quarrels and family discord are mother-in-law interference.

Without boundaries, the mother-in-law, the unrejecting son, and the inevitable cycle of excuses,

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A new mother, Ando Suisuke, carefully put her 8-month-old baby into a tub filled with water and watched as he lost his life,

In the eyes of the neighbors, Ando Suisuke and ordinary mothers were the same – the child would cry and shout, and she would rage when she was angry, and eventually become a mess.

Friends: 'Is it too difficult for us to get along with a mother-in-law?'

What made mothers even more frustrated was —

The husband's absenteeism.

In the drama 'The House on the Slope', Ando Suisuke, a new father, was completely bewildered by his wife's madness.

He didn't deal with the noisy children, so he let his mother-in-law help,

Carelessly, Ando Suisuke was dismissed, and she alone bore the burden of raising a child, which resulted in a completely different outcome,

Many mothers' daily lives that seem ordinary are actually full of explosions,

Some mothers rely on their strong beliefs to support themselves, while some mothers are finally defeated and crushed, perhaps hurting themselves, perhaps hurting their children.

But no one told us that first and foremost, we needed to take care of ourselves.

Taiwanese writer Huang Shuxun said: 'As long as you embody the role model that you want your child to become, your child will naturally grow into the person they see.'

Only mother is happy, children can be happy; only mother does herself, children can do themselves.

And a happy mother must have an un-interfering husband and a mother-in-law who does not exceed her boundaries.

In a family with boundaries and love, it is possible to reshape a good husband and wife.

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