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The TV series 'Home is Home' is currently being broadcast, with mixed reviews.However, in one scene between Sun Li and Hai Qing, I accidentally saw a shockingly realistic plot:After his wife gave birth, her husband became a 'turnkey manager', and the couple slept in separate beds…This scene is exactly what most families are experiencing – the absent father.In the scene, Hai Qing plays a pregnant woman with twins, wanting to buy a two-bedroom apartment for school district purposes. Sun Li plays a real estate agent, who happens to have a property that is slightly flawed – it's a 'runway house'.A long corridor separates one room from other rooms, making this house hang unsold for ten years.Sun Li's selling trick is to rearrange the house layout according to Hai Qing's needs.
The secondary room has a bed and a table, leaving the elementary school-age elder brother and grandfather to live in it.
The main room has a double bed, leaving Hai Qing and her grandmother to live in it, facilitating the elderly couple to take care of the newborn baby.When seeing this, Hai Qing became puzzled, where did her husband want to live?Sun Li gave the answer, that the room separated by the long corridor. The reason also satisfied Hai Qing, 'He needs to sleep during the day, this room is just to keep away from the children's noise.'So everyone had a happy ending, Hai Qing bought this house, but people outside were blank-faced.Mom, grandpa, grandma all go around the newborn baby, but Dad is isolated outside, is it right?In fact, after giving birth, dads become 'turnkey managers', which is a common situation in many families. In the eyes of most people, even if women are strong in marriage, they still need to return to family after marriage.Men need to work and earn money for the family, so when he returns home, he can rest and avoid family matters.So many women face the dilemma of bringing up children alone after giving birth.
The shackles imposed by outsiders on women did not disappear just because women entered marriage.
Not having children is unfilial.Not taking care of the husband and children is selfish.
Taking care of the family means neglecting self-care…When 'motherly love' is put on a divine pedestal, taking care of children seems to be a woman's inherent duty, but can they be 'for mothers, always forceful' from birth?
This year, ABC and Oscar both refused to broadcast this advertising.In the advertisement, a new mother was woken up by the baby's crying at night.She lit the lamp, in pain, and dragged her tired and weak body step by step to the toilet. Just from standing to squatting, she had to rely on her arm to hold on and sit carefully.
She had to hurry to take care of the body to take care of the newborn baby.
This advertisement was banned because 'it was too specific and seemed to reveal too much.'But is it 'too specific' or a true reflection? Millions of mothers know it well.
Zhang Ziyi filmed '' and used a bamboo stick to stop her bleeding after being hit by the bamboo stick, then continued filming. As she said, the biggest pain in her life is breast engorgement after giving birth.Ella said that because of giving birth, she suffered from uterine and bladder prolapse, leading to postpartum incontinence.She could not even clap her hands without leaking, running would leak, and even a slight movement would leak.
Until she had surgery and 'two lines' were used to suspend her bladder, the problem of incontinence was resolved. It's rare for women to openly talk about their pain, more mothers choose to silently endure everything.They need time to recover their bodies and adapt to their new identities, they still need to take care of and love their families.When someone doesn't understand her, it's like the host Li Jing said, 'After giving birth, the biggest psychological loss is the lack of dignity.', 'It feels like your body is a giant machine, and everyone is discussing your organs with you.'
It's not surprising that a mother once said, 'After giving birth, it always feels like everyone is against me.'The most feared thing is that the pillow side person, the person who should face difficulties together, does not understand her, and even blames her.Those hurts from her husband were likely the straw that broke the camel's back.
Because he was absent from the birth process, husbands didn't adapt to the 'dad' identity in time.
Because he was absent from the care of the child, husbands couldn't understand the difficulties of raising children. Women's hardships were seen as coquetry by those husbands who were absent.And the family tragedy could be avoided.Why should 'Mom' shoulder everything?In happy families, men all choose to face the unknown challenges with their wives.When Du Jiang and Hao Si Yan got married, Du Jiang was in a period of career rise. But he still dropped many jobs to accompany Hao Si Yan who was pregnant.When Hao Si Yan was pregnant, Du Jiang would help her apply oil every day, saying he would never let Hao Si Yan get a pregnancy line.During Hao Si Yan's pregnancy and birth, Du Jiang never let her face it alone.
After the child was born, Du Jiang's skill in taking care of 'Eh Hem' was no less than that of his wife.From taking care of the basic necessities of life to skillfully guiding social activities… Under the dual guardianship of Dad and Mom, Eh Hem has a beautiful childhood admired by everyone.People say that the best relationship is to be bound by day and night, kitchen and love.Sister Jiang thinks that the best relationship in marriage is no matter what happens, they face it together.Since they promised each other at the time of marriage that they would never separate even if they were poor or sick…
