Little one, do you have many question marks?

When we were young, we always wanted to please others, but as we get older, we increasingly want to please ourselves, and only want to make ourselves happy. Only our own happiness is true happiness, and no one else's happiness can replace our own happiness.

When we were young, we hoped to receive praise from teachers, praise from parents, praise from friends, and praise from neighbors. But we didn't want to receive praise from ourselves.

From that moment on, your happiness is destined to be controlled by others, just like a puppet held by someone else's hand. Others' feelings control your evaluation and happiness.

Over time, a pleasing personality has formed. And after forming this personality, you will become even more unhappy. Remember this sentence: as long as your happiness is not given by yourself, not created by yourself, but controlled by others, you will never truly be happy.

Pleasing personality is everywhere.

Some people write articles and really hope that everyone will like them. But this is almost impossible. Articles are not money, and not everyone can like them. Only a part of people can, and a part of people can hate them.

Some units also want to gain recognition from the outside world, especially from foreigners or overseas people. But this is unrealistic.

Because we cannot get everyone's approval, we can only get the approval of most people. As long as we continue to do what is right, as long as we can answer to the vast majority, that's enough.

Getting someone to like you is an empty thing. People are fickle. Today, he may be happy because you praised him, and tomorrow, he may hate you because you wore clothes unpleasantly. Approval is an empty and worthless thing, and you shouldn't care about it.

In this world, the only person who truly respects you is yourself. The only person who truly loves you is yourself. The only person who truly considers you is yourself. When we don't belong to the same group and come from different families and social classes, there's no way to have empathy. Many people are 'high-tearing low.'

As you get older, you dislike dealing with people more.

As you get older, you dislike dealing with people more. This is a pattern. The more experiences a person has, the more they understand people's hearts and how difficult it is to please others.

Sometimes in life, you need to make others satisfied or approve of you. You may have to make great sacrifices. For example, someone borrows you 100,000 yuan but doesn't want to repay it. If you want him to repay it, he will fight with you. You sacrifice for him, and you don't get the money?

Some people's demands are inherently unreasonable. Should you sacrifice yourself to satisfy such dishonest people?

As we get older, we increasingly understand how difficult it is to get along with people. People's hearts are separated by their stomachs. It's so difficult to please others. And no matter what you do, others will still be dissatisfied. So, why should we make ourselves unhappy?

We will eventually learn to get along with ourselves.

When we were young, we were afraid of being lonely and isolated, and afraid of not fitting in. So we sacrificed ourselves. But as time goes by and our experience increases, we understand that a person's most important lesson is always to learn to get along with themselves.

Only by not fearing loneliness and getting along peacefully with yourself can you protect yourself from the hurt caused by the outside world. When you have desires, you are in a weak position. But when you have no desires, you understand what '' means.