No one likes loneliness; it’s simply a reluctance to be disappointed.
Wouldn't I want to enter your heart?
Just my fear
You don't understand
Otherwise, how could I be repeatedly disappointed?
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Haruki Murakami once said: No one likes loneliness, they just don't want to be disappointed, that's all.
I pondered this sentence for a long time, immersed in my thoughts, recalling a rather humble girl, who would delete her posts after only a few minutes because she was afraid of not receiving attention and comments. She didn't like the feeling of disappointment.
I think, her greatest feeling is: without hope, there's no disappointment!
She was willing to spend her days alone, not participating in too many things, not needing to deliberately cater to the crowd, so that her heart could be more quiet and serene. Although she also looked forward to the outside world, she didn't like the feeling of disappointment, preferring to remain like this.
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Once I chatted with her and asked her what she liked to do most, I couldn't have imagined that she liked making friends the most. I said, 'You must have many friends,' and she shook her head and said, 'Used to, but now it's hard to find people I can really connect with. Before, I was proactive, but I found that my proactivity was a kind of difficulty for myself. Every time I received different degrees of disappointment, I didn't want to continue being disappointed.'
I understand her feelingsSome people don't dislike love, they just don't want to face the feeling of failing in a relationship. They also want to have a good relationship, hoping someone would be with them. But in a sea of people, it's hard to find someone to accompany you until old age. How easy is that?
Most people in this world have gone through many ups and downs before finally finding someone they can trust with their lives. However, in this process, many people give up after a short time, and they don't dare to start a new relationship after ending a relationship, not because they haven't met someone, not because they don't want it, but because they don't want to be disappointed.
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Sometimes, we mistakenly think that after a breakup, people become even more ruthless because they are really ruthless. It seems they just turned and forgot about the feelings they had before, and no matter how the other person asks, they won't start again. It's better to end it if it's over.
People's hearts are fragile and sensitive. Once something happens, it will leave a shadow in their hearts. Therefore, it's better to live alone, rather than endure the feeling of disappointment. Even if it means being a little lonely, it's no matter, because it's a self-sufficient and secure feeling to be alone, and that's a really beautiful thing.
Everyone wants to be loved, but they gradually control their emotions. It's not that they don't want to be loved, they just don't want to be disappointed.
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If love doesn't reach the point of ending, it's better not to start it, so you won't have the expectation during the process, and you won't have the hurt in the end. When you're alone, except for a little loneliness, everything else is fine. This feeling is also a pleasure. Sometimes, after a long time of worry and anxiety, you still get a disappointment, which is a thousand times worse than loneliness.
So, don't always say that others are arrogant or ruthless. No one likes loneliness, they just don't want to be disappointed. I hope you understand the people you love!
