The Best Way to Cultivate Yourself is Discernment: Paying Attention to These Issues in Life
It is not difficult to survive in this world, but it is not easy to live wisely and to be liked by most people.
Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and people who lack discernment are particularly unwelcome.In life, those who don't understand the concept of boundaries are always a burden to others and don't realize it themselves.
When interacting with others, they always overstep the boundaries, causing unnecessary trouble, and fail to grasp the nuances of conversation, believing themselves to be humorous.
Those who understand the concept of boundaries always realize that even with the best friends or closest people, there should be room for them, and they will show appropriate behavior and pay close attention to these issues during interactions.
01Troubling others constantly
Xiao Fang always said she was a very independent girl and didn't like to trouble others, but this was only her perception. She constantly troubled others.
She never picked up her own packages herself, always asking colleagues to fetch them for her, regardless of the weight of the items, believing they were just helping her, and this was considered troubling others.
Often, despite the convenience of taking a taxi, she would always call a friend to pick her up, without realizing it was a burden, and she thought her friend was helping her since she didn't have anything to do at home, and this was not considered troubling others.
Like Xiao Fang, who constantly troubles others, she completely lacks the concept of boundaries. If you trouble someone once or twice, they may not even care, but when you repeatedly trouble others, you will quickly regret having such a friend.
02Interfering in others' affairs
Xiao Guo and Xiao Hui were very good friends. Xiao Guo had a house to rent and had already agreed on a rent of 1800 yuan with a tenant and was about to sign a contract. Xiao Hui's classmate, Lina, was also looking for a house, and Xiao Hui didn't notify Xiao Guo, so she canceled the rental agreement that Xiao Guo had already arranged.
At first, Xiao Guo thought it didn't matter who he rented to, so he didn't complain much when Xiao Hui informed him, but when he tried to sign the contract, he found that the rent written on the contract was 900 yuan. Xiao Guo refused to agree, and he and Xiao Hui had a conflict.
Xiao Guo valued Xiao Hui as a friend, but Xiao Hui always interfered in his affairs, wanted to control everything, often ignored Xiao Guo's opinions, and made Xiao Guo unhappy. She thought that even with the best friends, they shouldn't arbitrarily interfere in each other's affairs. This lack of discernment was really a lack of manners.
03Unable to control jokes
Some people like to make jokes, but they don't know how to control the boundaries and specifically target others' 'vulnerable points.' Xiao Xie is one of those people.
At a classmate reunion, Xiao Xie showed his son's photo, and he joked: 'Our children are all in college, and yours is so young, are you born outside?'
Another classmate quickly pulled him aside to tell him. Xiao Xie realized his mistake afterward, but when the dinner was about to start, he continued to joke about the issue of having a second child: 'If you're infertile, don't even think about it.' The students quickly changed the topic, but he continued to make jokes about the issue.
As a result, the classmate reunion ended badly. Some words may not matter when they are spoken, but if someone listens with intent, it's not good. Sometimes, you can cause harm to others by failing to grasp the boundaries when making jokes. Ultimately, those who understand the concept of boundaries are those who are willing to respect others and consider their interests. If you respect others, others will respect you, and if you consider others, others will respond in kind.
Regardless of what you do, leaving a way out for others is also leaving a way out for yourself. Those who completely cut off the road have no way to go back. Ultimately, those who cut off the road have no way to go back.
Today's topic: What behavior is the most lacking in discernment?
