Lucio once said: 'What method do you use to ensure your child becomes an unfortunate person? That is to indulge him.'

Yes, you don't want your child to suffer, and this will only make him more miserable. Truly loving parents let their children go and become independent. The 'hardship' you inflict on him is only for him to be well-treated by the world tomorrow.

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Eating the bitterness of books will surely pave the way for success

Previously, the news '28-year-old PhD student from Peking University appointed as a professor at a prestigious university' went viral, attracting widespread attention from netizens.

South China Sea University of Medical Sciences announced that PhD student Li Lin began to serve as a professor at the college in July and also served as a doctoral supervisor. The college offers a salary of 9 million and 2 million in housing funds.

This caused countless people to admire and praise. Many people lamented the gap between 90s classmates!

But you didn't see her hard-earned success, nor did you see her countless days and nights of dedication. You didn't see her years of hard work and striving for success, nor did you see her now enjoying a life of abundance and wealth.

Grandpa often says: 'In this life, how much hardship you endure, how much blessing you enjoy, are all predetermined.'

Today you don't eat the bitterness of studying, and tomorrow you will eat the bitterness of life.

The bitterness of studying has an end, but the bitterness of life is endless, without limits.

I have often seen clueless parents who, when their children are lazy about studying, they criticize and reprimand them one-sidedly, or simply ignore it.

They comforted themselves: 'Bill Gates didn't go to university, and Lu Bu Xuan studied at Peking University, and he still went back to sell pork.'

But they didn't know that Bill Gates dropped out of Harvard University before, and Lu Bu Xuan was a graduate of Peking University; the pig-selling graduate of Peking University became a pig brand, and now his sales exceed ten billion and his worth is over ten billion.

Read this, do you still think studying is useless?

Reading cannot change your destiny, but it can change your thinking; studying is not the only way to success, but it is the easiest way. Those who follow this path will inevitably reach the summit.

There are so many things in the world that don't yield results when you put in the effort. Only the act of studying can yield returns step by step; there are too many things that are like illusory dreams, fleeting and short-lived. The only things you can never take away are your dreams and the knowledge you have gained.

Parents with foresight are willing to let their children endure hardship. They know that the sweat they pour out will become the foundation of their children's confidence, accumulate into the ladder they use to climb higher, and support them to see farther horizons.

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Eating the bitterness of failure will enable you to have a strong heart.

In life, things rarely go as planned, and when you lose, you will lose more than when you win. Parents with foresight teach their children not only how to succeed, but also how to face failure.

Previously, 'Jiangnan Evening News' reported that a fourth-grade primary school student committed suicide after failing to win the class monitor.

Reading the news, it's hard not to worry about the child's future. Life is so bumpy and difficult, one unsuccessful class monitor is not a big deal.

In the future, the child may still fail the college entrance exam, be disappointed in love, fail to find a job after graduation, or have marital problems. How should he face such failures and overcome such challenges?

White Yan Song wrote in 'White Talk':

He recruits several graduate students every year to guide at several top universities such as Peking University and Tsinghua University, and selects them from several resumes.

But one student, although he didn't feel very outstanding, was admitted.

When she asked White Yan Song the reason, White Yan Song told her that in other people's resumes, they saw 'achievements', obtained awards, and had excellent works.

Only in her resume did she see the failures. She wrote that after she experienced setbacks, she adjusted her mentality and worked hard for a long time before finally getting admitted to graduate school.

Seeing the girl's experience, White Yan Song sighed: 'Only people who have experienced many praises but also experienced many failures can face an uncertain future.'

Indeed, being able to win is a kind of strength, and losing is a kind of strength. It's a normal phenomenon in life. Parents who have this mindset will surely stand out and win in the end.

Parents with foresight don't just teach their children to pursue success, but tell their children that winning and losing are normal in life. Losing is a constant.

Only when children face failures with a calm attitude, their lives will not be lost in a single failure, and they can reverse the situation and win in the end.

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Eating the bitterness of being poor will make you cherish your life.

U.S. President Trump requires children to be strict. During daily life, he only provides children with living expenses and tuition fees, and children's pocket money must be earned by themselves. Even the phone bill must be paid by themselves.

The elder daughter and her mother went out together, and her mother sat in first-class cabin, while her daughter sat in economy class. The daughter wanted to upgrade to first-class cabin, but her mother said: 'You can upgrade, but you must earn the money yourself.'

Obviously, they didn't want their children to suffer, so they always treated their children with the best things, and they didn't want to give their children the best things, and they always didn't want to let their children feel ashamed.

But they didn't know that this would make their children ignorant of the hardships of life and wouldn't understand the difficulties of their parents. They were used to having everything handed to them and thought that everything they received was natural.

When they later complained that their children didn't understand gratitude, it was because they hadn't given their children a difficult childhood.

I have seen a news report about a young boy named Yang who suddenly had a business idea: first buy high-value insurance for his parents, then kill his parents to obtain the insurance premium.

That day, he personally cooked the beef and mixed sodium nitrite into it and fed it to his parents. Fortunately, his parents didn't want to let their son suffer, so they kept the beef for him to eat.

But the son didn't move, but instead changed his strategy and poisoned himself in the water. Seeing his parents struggle to die, he not only felt no remorse, but also turned on the gas stove and fabricated a gas poisoning scene.

Yang's parents were pitiful and sent their own son to death. But conversely, did their loving parenting make Yang's son a 'baby'?

Someone said: 'It's better for wealthy parents to make their children endure hardship, and poor parents are still talking about pampering.'

Indeed, parents with foresight know that the love they give their children will not last a lifetime.

Therefore, we should not let our children grow up like plants in a greenhouse, but let them grow into towering trees as early as possible. Only when they have experience can they have wings and soar into the blue sky.

Children's mental health experts said: 'People with a happy childhood often have unfortunate adulthood.'

Many parents only bear the burden for their children and let time be kind to them. But children don't know that it's not life that's difficult, but their parents are bearing the burden for them.

But parents' love shouldn't be measured by their parents' efforts, but should be measured by the value they bring to their children.

If parents don't teach their children to pursue success, they will tell their children that winning and losing are normal in life. Losing is a constant.

Only when children face failures with a calm attitude, their lives will not be lost in a single failure, and they can reverse the situation and win in the end.

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